2 Cor 6:14-18
14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? 16 And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
“ I will dwell in them
And walk among them.
I will be their God,
And they shall be My people.”
17 Therefore
“ Come out from among them
And be separate, says the Lord.
Do not touch what is unclean,
And I will receive you.”
18 “ I will be a Father to you,
And you shall be My sons and daughters,
Says the LORD Almighty.”
You have to be ready to have sex. No wed no bed!
1. Is the person a Christian/saved?
Why think about having sex(getting married) with an unsaved person? Marrying a believer will avoid a lot of heartache. Before getting to the altar make sure you are equally yoked. This is the 2nd most important decision you will make behind getting saved. Make sure you are equally yoked about money, kids, etc. You may not agree on everything but you have to be of one mind. If you are already married and you are unequally yoked pray that God touches the other person's heart.
2. Are you in love with the person?
Don't just like the person. You need to be head over heels with the person. Love is a choice. Be careful of fatal attraction. You don't have time to play. You have to be so tight nothing can break you guys up. The devil will use church people, anybody and will try to break you up everyday.
If she is checking your phone does she have a reason to? You can stop doing whatever sin it is. You can live without sex. It is for marriage only.
3. Is your credit and finances in tact?
It cost money to have sex. Men: make sure you have a job, money in the bank. Make sure your credit score is getting better. Is your stuff in order? You should have your HIV/AIDS test, STD test results, and credit score on the 1st date. Marriages are breaking up because of money. You don't have to be rich. What system of exchange are you participating in? System of exchange meaning you offer a service and you get money in exchange.
4. You have to be in agreement.
Amos 3:3
3 Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?
You want to be in one accord in every area possible. It is recommended that you two attend the same church.
Psalm 133:1-3
1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brethren to dwell together in unity!
2 It is like the precious oil upon the head,
Running down on the beard,
The beard of Aaron,
Running down on the edge of his garments.
3 It is like the dew of Hermon,
Descending upon the mountains of Zion;
For there the LORD commanded the blessing—
Life forevermore.
When you are in unity God commands a blessing. Make sure you are one accord in these areas:
Spiritually - You have to be clicking spiritually. The person you are dating may not be on the same level (i.e you speak in tongues) but should be on that path.
Emotionally - Does the person talk you up?
Socially - Can you guys discuss politics, social issues, etc?
Economically - Can you guys discuss money? Is there a plan to increase their finances? Do you have one as well? It wont' work if one person makes $250,000 and the other person makes $25,000.
Physical - You don't need to do a test drive. If you are clicking in the other areas don't you think God will make sure you are compatible in this area regarding sex? If you wait until your wedding night to have sex that night will be the blessing of your life.
5. Get the counsel of others.
Prov 11:14
14 Where there is no counsel, the people fall;
But in the multitude of counselors there is safety.
Every relationship you've had came to an end. What makes you so sure this one won't end? We need to learn to how to grieve. We have the attitude of telling our friend and family to just go out and get another girl/boyfriend. We think we just need to go out and get another girl/boyfriend. How many diseases have you picked up along the way?
What does your family think? Bring your date to your pastor. What do you have to hide?
6. Be honest about any STDs.
Some states require you to show your STD results before getting married. People don't take the time to cover the necessary basis. Can you deal with the other person's STDs? You are putting the other person's life in danger when you are not honest. There is nothing wrong with having a test. Fast and pray if there are soul ties.
Married people should fast together to rid of soul ties faster. Fasting should also be done if you are dealing with homosexuality.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
Sunday, September 25, 2011
That Just Ain't Natural
This isn't about gay bashing. We all need help in some areas in our lives. Church is a hospital for the sick. If we kick gay people out of the church then we need to kick out the fornicators, adulterers, those who don't pay tithes, alcoholics, etc.
Homosexuality is an overall term for people who like people of the same sex. Lesbians are two women who like each other. We dog two men together but think it's okay for two women to be together. That's the society we live in.
Quick note about bestiality. That is having sex with an animal.
Exodus 22:19
19 “Whoever lies with an animal shall surely be put to death.
Lev 18:23
23 Nor shall you mate with any animal, to defile yourself with it. Nor shall any woman stand before an animal to mate with it. It is perversion.
Lev 20:15
15 If a man mates with an animal, he shall surely be put to death, and you shall kill the animal.
Deut 27:21
21 ‘Cursed is the one who lies with any kind of animal.’
“And all the people shall say, ‘Amen!’
Sodom and Gomorrah
Gen 19:5 NIV
5 They called to Lot, “Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us so that we can have sex with them.”
Whatever God looks as perversion He will destroy it.
Noah's son Ham saw Noah's nakedness. Some say they participated in homosexuality.
Gen 9:18- 25
18 Now the sons of Noah who went out of the ark were Shem, Ham, and Japheth. And Ham was the father of Canaan. 19 These three were the sons of Noah, and from these the whole earth was populated.
20 And Noah began to be a farmer, and he planted a vineyard. 21 Then he drank of the wine and was drunk, and became uncovered in his tent. 22 And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father, and told his two brothers outside. 23 But Shem and Japheth took a garment, laid it on both their shoulders, and went backward and covered the nakedness of their father. Their faces were turned away, and they did not see their father’s nakedness.
24 So Noah awoke from his wine, and knew what his younger son had done to him. 25 Then he said:
“ Cursed be Canaan;
A servant of servants
He shall be to his brethren.”
Ham was cursed for uncovering his father.
God created Eve out of Adam. If a man is supposed to be with a man why didn't God create another man? Some will try to say that there is homosexuality in the bible. Some have said that Jesus was gay because he did not marry and was around 12 men. When you discuss homosexuality is wrong be sure that you know what you are talking about.
Jude 1:7
7Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
Is it worth going to hell?
You may say that you have been hurt and want to go after the same sex. Just because it feels good doesn't mean that it is right. A men getting with 3 women isn't right. Women getting toys is not right. Doing good doesn't always feel good such as tithing and loving everyone.
Lev 18:22
22Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
Lev 20:13
13If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
Don't do it because God doesn't like it.
Romans 1:24 - 27
24 Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, 25 who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.
26 For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. 27 Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.
v25 - You get caught up and worship the creature instead of God.
v26 - It's just not natural. It's only natural for a man and a woman to be together. The bible has to be the final authority in your life.
What if you are a guy and you don't like women? Or you are a woman and you don't like men? You feel like that because of sin. Just because you feel you were born that way you can be born again. The same blood that saves murderers, liars, thieves is the same blood that can save homosexuals and lesbians. The answer to sin is the blood.
Christian gays?
There are 4 predispositions to homosexuality:
1. Depressed temperament
2. Pessimistic childhood training
Parents were addicted to pornography, promiscuous parent.
3. Insecurities about child identity
Touched as a child, had experiences and it's in your head/mind. You may feel pain because of what
happened. It can't be excuse through your whole adulthood.
4. Child sexual experience
Stuff just happened and you are caught up.
80% of people who have these predispositions never had a homosexual encounter. You are not gay thinking about it. You are gay when you do it.
There is a difference between an effeminate and feminine men. If a man is effeminate then he is gay. Effeminate means a man has characteristics that are of a woman. If you aren't gay no one should think you are. Homosexuality can be a learned behavior. There are practical things you can do so people won't think you are gay or a lesbian.
In biblical times a woman with short hair meant that she was a prostitute. The women with short hair was set apart from a woman who had long hair.
Matt 5:13
13 “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.
Salt was used to light the fire in the oven .We are the salt of the earth. You can make a conscious decision to not be like that. When a man gets with a woman a fire can be lit. Think of it like a lamp. When you plug a lamp into an outlet it is lit. When you put a plug with another plug nothing happens and they don't fit into each other.
Homosexuality is an overall term for people who like people of the same sex. Lesbians are two women who like each other. We dog two men together but think it's okay for two women to be together. That's the society we live in.
Quick note about bestiality. That is having sex with an animal.
Exodus 22:19
19 “Whoever lies with an animal shall surely be put to death.
Lev 18:23
23 Nor shall you mate with any animal, to defile yourself with it. Nor shall any woman stand before an animal to mate with it. It is perversion.
Lev 20:15
15 If a man mates with an animal, he shall surely be put to death, and you shall kill the animal.
Deut 27:21
21 ‘Cursed is the one who lies with any kind of animal.’
“And all the people shall say, ‘Amen!’
Sodom and Gomorrah
Gen 19:5 NIV
5 They called to Lot, “Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us so that we can have sex with them.”
Whatever God looks as perversion He will destroy it.
Noah's son Ham saw Noah's nakedness. Some say they participated in homosexuality.
Gen 9:18- 25
18 Now the sons of Noah who went out of the ark were Shem, Ham, and Japheth. And Ham was the father of Canaan. 19 These three were the sons of Noah, and from these the whole earth was populated.
20 And Noah began to be a farmer, and he planted a vineyard. 21 Then he drank of the wine and was drunk, and became uncovered in his tent. 22 And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father, and told his two brothers outside. 23 But Shem and Japheth took a garment, laid it on both their shoulders, and went backward and covered the nakedness of their father. Their faces were turned away, and they did not see their father’s nakedness.
24 So Noah awoke from his wine, and knew what his younger son had done to him. 25 Then he said:
“ Cursed be Canaan;
A servant of servants
He shall be to his brethren.”
Ham was cursed for uncovering his father.
God created Eve out of Adam. If a man is supposed to be with a man why didn't God create another man? Some will try to say that there is homosexuality in the bible. Some have said that Jesus was gay because he did not marry and was around 12 men. When you discuss homosexuality is wrong be sure that you know what you are talking about.
Jude 1:7
7Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
Is it worth going to hell?
You may say that you have been hurt and want to go after the same sex. Just because it feels good doesn't mean that it is right. A men getting with 3 women isn't right. Women getting toys is not right. Doing good doesn't always feel good such as tithing and loving everyone.
Lev 18:22
22Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
Lev 20:13
13If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
Don't do it because God doesn't like it.
Romans 1:24 - 27
24 Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, 25 who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.
26 For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. 27 Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.
v25 - You get caught up and worship the creature instead of God.
v26 - It's just not natural. It's only natural for a man and a woman to be together. The bible has to be the final authority in your life.
What if you are a guy and you don't like women? Or you are a woman and you don't like men? You feel like that because of sin. Just because you feel you were born that way you can be born again. The same blood that saves murderers, liars, thieves is the same blood that can save homosexuals and lesbians. The answer to sin is the blood.
Christian gays?
There are 4 predispositions to homosexuality:
1. Depressed temperament
2. Pessimistic childhood training
Parents were addicted to pornography, promiscuous parent.
3. Insecurities about child identity
Touched as a child, had experiences and it's in your head/mind. You may feel pain because of what
happened. It can't be excuse through your whole adulthood.
4. Child sexual experience
Stuff just happened and you are caught up.
80% of people who have these predispositions never had a homosexual encounter. You are not gay thinking about it. You are gay when you do it.
There is a difference between an effeminate and feminine men. If a man is effeminate then he is gay. Effeminate means a man has characteristics that are of a woman. If you aren't gay no one should think you are. Homosexuality can be a learned behavior. There are practical things you can do so people won't think you are gay or a lesbian.
In biblical times a woman with short hair meant that she was a prostitute. The women with short hair was set apart from a woman who had long hair.
Matt 5:13
13 “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.
Salt was used to light the fire in the oven .We are the salt of the earth. You can make a conscious decision to not be like that. When a man gets with a woman a fire can be lit. Think of it like a lamp. When you plug a lamp into an outlet it is lit. When you put a plug with another plug nothing happens and they don't fit into each other.
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
I'll Just Do It Myself
Your not going to fix your sexual situation by getting married. The devil will always fight you. God made us sexual beings. Stop praying that God will take it away. You need it for when you get married.
Molestation is a very sensitive issue. Some people are promiscuous because she didn't get the attention from her father. Healing can't happen unless you deal with it. We have to go to the Manufacturer to fix and diagnose the problem.
Masturbation is not in the bible. When you can' find it in the bible it falls into the questionable category. Masturbation falls into the category of perversion. There is no proof of harm to the body medically. However it attracts issues to your life that are negative. It ties close to pornography (pornea).
Men are more addicted to pornography then women. 100 Million people were surveyed:
2% watch pornography
3% said it was helpful
86% said it was harmful
87% said it degrades women
89% said it promotes violence.
71% said it degrades sex
75% said it was addictive/addicted to it
82% said it distorts sexuality
71% said it's destructive to life
71% said it was dangerous
Child molesters/rapists 9/10 has dealt with pornography. You have to guard your mind and hearts. Check your house because you don't want to play with pornography.
You may say it's your body, it's safe, no drama, no diseases. It destroys marriages. 3/5 marriages deal with masturbation. It's easy for men to do it when women say no. It causes less attraction. Don't tell your spouse if he is good you will give it to him. He can just do it himself. Emotions aren't attached to sex for men. It's physical for him.
When you masturbate you are saying that you have no self control. Sex was designed for two people, not 1. You are telling God you don't need what He created. Women will say that they don't need a man, and men will say that they don't need women. Women do need the covering of a man. Some women decide to take care of things themselves by using toys.
Everything God made Satan wants to pervert it. It produces a numbness in your spirit and disconnects you from your spouse because you are taking things into your own hands. You get into dangerous mental adultery. Who are you thinking of? Instead of being attracted to your spouse you are drawn to some fantasy world.
Masturbation is dangerous for singles. You get into mental fornication. Who are you thinking about? The bible says that if you even look at a woman you commit adultery. For singles you are committing fornication.
Matt 5:28
28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Three ways to help:
1. Destroy all pornography in your house.
Delete e-mails. It does something to a man when he sees a naked woman.
Get rid of magazines, toys, etc.
1 Cor 5:6
6 Your glorying is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump?
Don't go to the strip clubs.
Ladies: give your husband something to look at. You can get money faster from your husband than a
stripper can.Men: emotionally stimulate her so she won't want to touch herself. Don't just use her for
sex. It's just a duty to her when she's just laying there. Tell her she's pretty.
2. Change your habits.
Avoid all things that cause you to be nasty. Avoid that man or woman that you like receiving compliments
from. Avoid the aisle with those magazines. You know what turns you on. Don't answer the phone, don't
text back. If you want God to mingle in your life live right.
3. Starve your fantasy
Don't play that movie in your mind. When you see your thoughts are going to lead to lust, porn ,etc cast
down those vain imaginations.
2 Cor 10:3-5
3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. 4 For the weapons of
our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting
down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing
every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
Is masturbation a sin?
Gen 38:1-10
1 It came to pass at that time that Judah departed from his brothers, and visited a certain Adullamite whose name was Hirah. 2 And Judah saw there a daughter of a certain Canaanite whose name was Shua, and he married her and went in to her. 3 So she conceived and bore a son, and he called his name Er. 4 She conceived again and bore a son, and she called his name Onan. 5 And she conceived yet again and bore a son, and called his name Shelah. He was at Chezib when she bore him.
6 Then Judah took a wife for Er his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. 7 But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the sight of the LORD, and the LORD killed him. 8 And Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife and marry her, and raise up an heir to your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the heir would not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in to his brother’s wife, that he emitted on the ground, lest he should give an heir to his brother. And the thing which he did displeased the LORD; therefore He killed him also.
He wasted his seed. Most theologians believed he masturbated.
Heb 13:4
4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
The following statement isn't in the bible but Pastor Brown's theological construct:
Is masturbation ever okay? God hates when you bring a 3rd party into the bedroom. There is no wrong sex between married persons. When you masturbate within your marriage for example because your husband is away can lead to mental adultery.
Molestation is a very sensitive issue. Some people are promiscuous because she didn't get the attention from her father. Healing can't happen unless you deal with it. We have to go to the Manufacturer to fix and diagnose the problem.
Masturbation is not in the bible. When you can' find it in the bible it falls into the questionable category. Masturbation falls into the category of perversion. There is no proof of harm to the body medically. However it attracts issues to your life that are negative. It ties close to pornography (pornea).
Men are more addicted to pornography then women. 100 Million people were surveyed:
2% watch pornography
3% said it was helpful
86% said it was harmful
87% said it degrades women
89% said it promotes violence.
71% said it degrades sex
75% said it was addictive/addicted to it
82% said it distorts sexuality
71% said it's destructive to life
71% said it was dangerous
Child molesters/rapists 9/10 has dealt with pornography. You have to guard your mind and hearts. Check your house because you don't want to play with pornography.
You may say it's your body, it's safe, no drama, no diseases. It destroys marriages. 3/5 marriages deal with masturbation. It's easy for men to do it when women say no. It causes less attraction. Don't tell your spouse if he is good you will give it to him. He can just do it himself. Emotions aren't attached to sex for men. It's physical for him.
When you masturbate you are saying that you have no self control. Sex was designed for two people, not 1. You are telling God you don't need what He created. Women will say that they don't need a man, and men will say that they don't need women. Women do need the covering of a man. Some women decide to take care of things themselves by using toys.
Everything God made Satan wants to pervert it. It produces a numbness in your spirit and disconnects you from your spouse because you are taking things into your own hands. You get into dangerous mental adultery. Who are you thinking of? Instead of being attracted to your spouse you are drawn to some fantasy world.
Masturbation is dangerous for singles. You get into mental fornication. Who are you thinking about? The bible says that if you even look at a woman you commit adultery. For singles you are committing fornication.
Matt 5:28
28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Three ways to help:
1. Destroy all pornography in your house.
Delete e-mails. It does something to a man when he sees a naked woman.
Get rid of magazines, toys, etc.
1 Cor 5:6
6 Your glorying is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump?
Don't go to the strip clubs.
Ladies: give your husband something to look at. You can get money faster from your husband than a
stripper can.Men: emotionally stimulate her so she won't want to touch herself. Don't just use her for
sex. It's just a duty to her when she's just laying there. Tell her she's pretty.
2. Change your habits.
Avoid all things that cause you to be nasty. Avoid that man or woman that you like receiving compliments
from. Avoid the aisle with those magazines. You know what turns you on. Don't answer the phone, don't
text back. If you want God to mingle in your life live right.
3. Starve your fantasy
Don't play that movie in your mind. When you see your thoughts are going to lead to lust, porn ,etc cast
down those vain imaginations.
2 Cor 10:3-5
3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. 4 For the weapons of
our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting
down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing
every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
Is masturbation a sin?
Gen 38:1-10
1 It came to pass at that time that Judah departed from his brothers, and visited a certain Adullamite whose name was Hirah. 2 And Judah saw there a daughter of a certain Canaanite whose name was Shua, and he married her and went in to her. 3 So she conceived and bore a son, and he called his name Er. 4 She conceived again and bore a son, and she called his name Onan. 5 And she conceived yet again and bore a son, and called his name Shelah. He was at Chezib when she bore him.
6 Then Judah took a wife for Er his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. 7 But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the sight of the LORD, and the LORD killed him. 8 And Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife and marry her, and raise up an heir to your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the heir would not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in to his brother’s wife, that he emitted on the ground, lest he should give an heir to his brother. And the thing which he did displeased the LORD; therefore He killed him also.
He wasted his seed. Most theologians believed he masturbated.
Heb 13:4
4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
The following statement isn't in the bible but Pastor Brown's theological construct:
Is masturbation ever okay? God hates when you bring a 3rd party into the bedroom. There is no wrong sex between married persons. When you masturbate within your marriage for example because your husband is away can lead to mental adultery.
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Don't Just Give It Away
10 Reasons why not to have sex outside if marriage.
1. God says so.
1 Cor 6:18
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
God will bless you. The devil knows what you like. He knows how to get in with words. The devil will send him or her your way. It's a set up. What is fornication? Fornication is sexual activity before marriage. Adultery is when two people are having sex but one is married. Fornication is a blessing blocker. You focus on the other person when you are fornicating.
2. You don't want to mess the blessing of the wedding night.
A virgin means untouched. you can have a virgin relationship even though you are not a virgin. You don't want to lose that testimony. hen you love someone you want to give it up but you are to wait. The next person you lay down with will be your spouse. When are you going to stop being average? People date and sleep around. Come up above average. Sex is not food and you will not die from not having it.
3. You will be spiritually healthy.
1 Thes 5:19
19 Do not quench the Spirit.
The reason why your prayers aren't answered is because of fornication. God's not moving. The Holy Spirit shuts down. You lose the ability to hear from God clearly.
4. You will be physically healthy.
You can't get AIDS. Is he or she worth it? you can also get herpes which there is no cure for.
5. You will be emotionally healthy.
You will be pick up the other person's baggage and your emotions will be jacked up.
6. Soul ties
Gen 34:1-8
1 Now Dinah the daughter of Leah, whom she had borne to Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. 2 And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her and lay with her, and violated her. 3 His soul was strongly attracted to Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly to the young woman. 4 So Shechem spoke to his father Hamor, saying, “Get me this young woman as a wife.”
5 And Jacob heard that he had defiled Dinah his daughter. Now his sons were with his livestock in the field; so Jacob held his peace until they came. 6 Then Hamor the father of Shechem went out to Jacob to speak with him. 7 And the sons of Jacob came in from the field when they heard it; and the men were grieved and very angry, because he had done a disgraceful thing in Israel by lying with Jacob’s daughter, a thing which ought not to be done. 8 But Hamor spoke with them, saying, “The soul of my son Shechem longs for your daughter. Please give her to him as a wife.
When you lay down your soul is tied. In the spirit you become husband and wife. You can't move on because your soul is tied to your ex's. You wonder why you don't have the strength to walk away. You should break soul ties before you date again. Husband/wives if you have forgiven your spouse help him or her to fight that soul tie.
7. You show consideration for your partner's well being.
Phil 2:3
3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
You are respecting them and want the best for them in the kingdom. Date during the daytime. Don't go to late night movies. Take responsibility for yourself and not fornicate. There was a time fathers protected their daughters. men had to go to the father's home to pick up the daughter for a date.
If the other person is selfish it will show up in marriage.
8. Waiting is a test of true love.
Patience will have the perfect work (James 1:4).
1 Cor 13:4
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
You love the person so much you don't want to put the person in a situation where there is fornication. When a man finds out you are a virgin men will hurry to marry you. Stop shacking. What are you waiting on? Every time you lay down with someone you push your wedding day back.
2 Cor 10:5
5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
Guard yourself. You want the benefits of marriage but you don't want to get married. If you are shacking up people will not want your Jesus.
9. You won't have negative consequences.
Some of the consequences are illegitimate children, diseases, etc. God can heal you of diseases but until then you will have to deal with it.If He doesn't ever heal you will still have to deal with it. You also won't have to deal with shame, tension and animosity.
After you have slept with him or her there is a change. It does something to a man when you tell him no. The more you say no the harder he will try. The 1st thing you should discuss when you go out on a date is that you are waiting until you get married. Also talk about your credit scores, STD tests, etc.
Heb 12:1
1us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,
Dating the wrong person is not a sin but it can lead to sin if you date him or her long enough. If you see a red flag on the 1st date then break it up. Notice if he clicks on the waitress for example.
10. You keep your Christian testimony in tact.
Matt 5:13
13 “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.
You don't want people to look at you and say that they know what you like, that they slept with you. You don't want people to look at you as a Christian that sleeps around. People listen to you when you are not having sex. What you do for God lasts.
Do not enter the bed with out the marriage license.
1. God says so.
1 Cor 6:18
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
God will bless you. The devil knows what you like. He knows how to get in with words. The devil will send him or her your way. It's a set up. What is fornication? Fornication is sexual activity before marriage. Adultery is when two people are having sex but one is married. Fornication is a blessing blocker. You focus on the other person when you are fornicating.
2. You don't want to mess the blessing of the wedding night.
A virgin means untouched. you can have a virgin relationship even though you are not a virgin. You don't want to lose that testimony. hen you love someone you want to give it up but you are to wait. The next person you lay down with will be your spouse. When are you going to stop being average? People date and sleep around. Come up above average. Sex is not food and you will not die from not having it.
3. You will be spiritually healthy.
1 Thes 5:19
19 Do not quench the Spirit.
The reason why your prayers aren't answered is because of fornication. God's not moving. The Holy Spirit shuts down. You lose the ability to hear from God clearly.
4. You will be physically healthy.
You can't get AIDS. Is he or she worth it? you can also get herpes which there is no cure for.
5. You will be emotionally healthy.
You will be pick up the other person's baggage and your emotions will be jacked up.
6. Soul ties
Gen 34:1-8
1 Now Dinah the daughter of Leah, whom she had borne to Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. 2 And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her and lay with her, and violated her. 3 His soul was strongly attracted to Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly to the young woman. 4 So Shechem spoke to his father Hamor, saying, “Get me this young woman as a wife.”
5 And Jacob heard that he had defiled Dinah his daughter. Now his sons were with his livestock in the field; so Jacob held his peace until they came. 6 Then Hamor the father of Shechem went out to Jacob to speak with him. 7 And the sons of Jacob came in from the field when they heard it; and the men were grieved and very angry, because he had done a disgraceful thing in Israel by lying with Jacob’s daughter, a thing which ought not to be done. 8 But Hamor spoke with them, saying, “The soul of my son Shechem longs for your daughter. Please give her to him as a wife.
When you lay down your soul is tied. In the spirit you become husband and wife. You can't move on because your soul is tied to your ex's. You wonder why you don't have the strength to walk away. You should break soul ties before you date again. Husband/wives if you have forgiven your spouse help him or her to fight that soul tie.
7. You show consideration for your partner's well being.
Phil 2:3
3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
You are respecting them and want the best for them in the kingdom. Date during the daytime. Don't go to late night movies. Take responsibility for yourself and not fornicate. There was a time fathers protected their daughters. men had to go to the father's home to pick up the daughter for a date.
If the other person is selfish it will show up in marriage.
8. Waiting is a test of true love.
Patience will have the perfect work (James 1:4).
1 Cor 13:4
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
You love the person so much you don't want to put the person in a situation where there is fornication. When a man finds out you are a virgin men will hurry to marry you. Stop shacking. What are you waiting on? Every time you lay down with someone you push your wedding day back.
2 Cor 10:5
5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
Guard yourself. You want the benefits of marriage but you don't want to get married. If you are shacking up people will not want your Jesus.
9. You won't have negative consequences.
Some of the consequences are illegitimate children, diseases, etc. God can heal you of diseases but until then you will have to deal with it.If He doesn't ever heal you will still have to deal with it. You also won't have to deal with shame, tension and animosity.
After you have slept with him or her there is a change. It does something to a man when you tell him no. The more you say no the harder he will try. The 1st thing you should discuss when you go out on a date is that you are waiting until you get married. Also talk about your credit scores, STD tests, etc.
Heb 12:1
1us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,
Dating the wrong person is not a sin but it can lead to sin if you date him or her long enough. If you see a red flag on the 1st date then break it up. Notice if he clicks on the waitress for example.
10. You keep your Christian testimony in tact.
Matt 5:13
13 “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.
You don't want people to look at you and say that they know what you like, that they slept with you. You don't want people to look at you as a Christian that sleeps around. People listen to you when you are not having sex. What you do for God lasts.
Do not enter the bed with out the marriage license.
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Keep The Fire Burning
This message was taught by both Pastor Stephen Brown and First Lady NeShante Brown.
The same people that the devil has the single people ready has the same married people dry. You have to do everything in your power to keep the fire burning.
Gen 2:24
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
How do we become one flesh? You become one when the marriage is consummated. You have to have sex regularly. Leave your parents out of your marriage. Pastor Brown and First Lady Brown made a covenant to never call their parents on each other. When you tell your parents they are looking at you guys crazy even though you guys have made up. It will be hard to commit adultery when you are having sex regularly. Singles ladies: He is marrying not just for your intelligence, you having a job etc.
Gen 1:28
28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
God is saying to have sex and have it all the time. Before you try to dominate other things get married and have sex. God put Adam asleep and took out a rib. You can't have spare ribs. If you've tasted another rib don't do it again. He made it for mental and physical enjoyment. It's not good for a man to be alone and he needs a help mate. Adam needs someone to make love to. He made Eve and not Steve. God also wants us to reproduce.
Reasons why married Christians are having problems in the bed:
There are things in between the husband and wife
1. Lack of prayer - not praying for your sex life. Pray to keep the fire burning.Anoint yourself with oil.
People get divorced because of lack of sex.
NeShante Brown - She says specific prayers. God knows your husband better than you do. God can give you secrets to please your spouse. Ask God to give you ideas.
Prov 5:15-20
15 Drink water from your own cistern,
And running water from your own well.
16 Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,
Streams of water in the streets?
17 Let them be only your own,
And not for strangers with you.
18 Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of your youth.
19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
And always be enraptured with her love.
20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman,
And be embraced in the arms of a seductress?
Let each man have his own wife and let each woman have her own husband (1 Cor 7:2). You may think it's better on the other side but it's the devil. It's not real, it's an illusion. There's no responsibility there. When there is a real relationship there's a responsibility. Husbands/wives are responsible for certain things.
Sex is the #1 Googled word in the world.
2. Unforgiveness - Don't let it get into the bed.
Matt 18;21-22
21 Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him?
Up to seven times?”
22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.
How long are you going to let that pain in your heart? You can't bring it up every 5 minutes. You can't tell
the other person to get over it either. Talk about it until there is healing.
NeShante Brown - Just like offense is a stumbling block so can unforgiveness. You have to decide in advance to forgive. Christ forgave us. What if Jesus said he won't forgive you today? It's hurting you more
when you don't forgive. How much are you going to let the offense impact your life?
Men: learn to initiate the apology. You are the head of the household. Women: you hold onto stuff for a long time. You hep to set the atmosphere. When the atmosphere is not right the bed isn't right.
NeShante Brown - Apologies are very important when sincere.
3.Past - keep it out. Your wife may not be into the things sexually your past lover was into. There are also
soul ties and she can't make a connection to you. You can't compare your spouse to everyone. Ladies:
you can't expect the men to be the same as the guys you dated in college.
How many people are in your bed?
2 Cor 7:1-5
1 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5
When you are married your body doesn't belong to you. There is no such thing as no. You may not be in the mood but you can't say no. If you deny the spouse the devil will get into the marriage. It has nothing to do with your husband being a good boy. The only time you don't have sex is when there is fasting but there has to be agreement between the spouses.
NeShante Brown - There is no such thing as saying no. It is easy between the Pastor and First Lady because there is noting between them that prevents them from having sex.
4. Lack of communication - Talk about what you like and don't like.
Heb 13:4
4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Third party and bestiality is not allowed!
There are 5 Love Languages:
Words of affirmation
Quality Time - Just spending time with the person
Gifts - Your spouse may like receiving gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
NeShante Brown - Concerning the past. If you are a virgin you can't hold it against the other person if he or she is not. It's self righteous to hold it against them. Men have sex drives and women have communication drives. Men don't want the sex drive quenched and the women don't want the communication quenched.
People will hit on your spouse. Don't let your spouse be thirsty for compliments.
5.Lack of creativity - What are you doing to keep things interesting? Ladies, don't walk around looking like Aunt Jemima. He needs to come home to the most beautiful woman in the world. If you can't look at your spouse naked who will you look at? Look the best you can at the size you are at. You had a lot of ideas when you were in sin. Now you are married you are not creative anymore.
NeShante Brown - during the time of the month you may not feel sexy so you may want to put on shorts or sweats and pastor understands. Don't make a move on major hair decisions. It's not about not being able to do what you want with your hair.You want to make sure he likes it.
The same people that the devil has the single people ready has the same married people dry. You have to do everything in your power to keep the fire burning.
Gen 2:24
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
How do we become one flesh? You become one when the marriage is consummated. You have to have sex regularly. Leave your parents out of your marriage. Pastor Brown and First Lady Brown made a covenant to never call their parents on each other. When you tell your parents they are looking at you guys crazy even though you guys have made up. It will be hard to commit adultery when you are having sex regularly. Singles ladies: He is marrying not just for your intelligence, you having a job etc.
Gen 1:28
28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
God is saying to have sex and have it all the time. Before you try to dominate other things get married and have sex. God put Adam asleep and took out a rib. You can't have spare ribs. If you've tasted another rib don't do it again. He made it for mental and physical enjoyment. It's not good for a man to be alone and he needs a help mate. Adam needs someone to make love to. He made Eve and not Steve. God also wants us to reproduce.
Reasons why married Christians are having problems in the bed:
There are things in between the husband and wife
1. Lack of prayer - not praying for your sex life. Pray to keep the fire burning.Anoint yourself with oil.
People get divorced because of lack of sex.
NeShante Brown - She says specific prayers. God knows your husband better than you do. God can give you secrets to please your spouse. Ask God to give you ideas.
Prov 5:15-20
15 Drink water from your own cistern,
And running water from your own well.
16 Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,
Streams of water in the streets?
17 Let them be only your own,
And not for strangers with you.
18 Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of your youth.
19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
And always be enraptured with her love.
20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman,
And be embraced in the arms of a seductress?
Let each man have his own wife and let each woman have her own husband (1 Cor 7:2). You may think it's better on the other side but it's the devil. It's not real, it's an illusion. There's no responsibility there. When there is a real relationship there's a responsibility. Husbands/wives are responsible for certain things.
Sex is the #1 Googled word in the world.
2. Unforgiveness - Don't let it get into the bed.
Matt 18;21-22
21 Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him?
Up to seven times?”
22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.
How long are you going to let that pain in your heart? You can't bring it up every 5 minutes. You can't tell
the other person to get over it either. Talk about it until there is healing.
NeShante Brown - Just like offense is a stumbling block so can unforgiveness. You have to decide in advance to forgive. Christ forgave us. What if Jesus said he won't forgive you today? It's hurting you more
when you don't forgive. How much are you going to let the offense impact your life?
Men: learn to initiate the apology. You are the head of the household. Women: you hold onto stuff for a long time. You hep to set the atmosphere. When the atmosphere is not right the bed isn't right.
NeShante Brown - Apologies are very important when sincere.
3.Past - keep it out. Your wife may not be into the things sexually your past lover was into. There are also
soul ties and she can't make a connection to you. You can't compare your spouse to everyone. Ladies:
you can't expect the men to be the same as the guys you dated in college.
How many people are in your bed?
2 Cor 7:1-5
1 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5
When you are married your body doesn't belong to you. There is no such thing as no. You may not be in the mood but you can't say no. If you deny the spouse the devil will get into the marriage. It has nothing to do with your husband being a good boy. The only time you don't have sex is when there is fasting but there has to be agreement between the spouses.
NeShante Brown - There is no such thing as saying no. It is easy between the Pastor and First Lady because there is noting between them that prevents them from having sex.
4. Lack of communication - Talk about what you like and don't like.
Heb 13:4
4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Third party and bestiality is not allowed!
There are 5 Love Languages:
Words of affirmation
Quality Time - Just spending time with the person
Gifts - Your spouse may like receiving gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
NeShante Brown - Concerning the past. If you are a virgin you can't hold it against the other person if he or she is not. It's self righteous to hold it against them. Men have sex drives and women have communication drives. Men don't want the sex drive quenched and the women don't want the communication quenched.
People will hit on your spouse. Don't let your spouse be thirsty for compliments.
5.Lack of creativity - What are you doing to keep things interesting? Ladies, don't walk around looking like Aunt Jemima. He needs to come home to the most beautiful woman in the world. If you can't look at your spouse naked who will you look at? Look the best you can at the size you are at. You had a lot of ideas when you were in sin. Now you are married you are not creative anymore.
NeShante Brown - during the time of the month you may not feel sexy so you may want to put on shorts or sweats and pastor understands. Don't make a move on major hair decisions. It's not about not being able to do what you want with your hair.You want to make sure he likes it.
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Dating 101
Both Pastor Stephen Brown and First Lady NeShante Brown taught on Dating 101.
When it comes to dating your mind needs to be renewed.
Romans 12:2
2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
The problem with dating is that it is not in the bible. There were arranged marriages. Courtship was time spent until the marriage/wedding day comes. A woman's virginity was paid for. A white sheet was taken and examined for blood. If no blood the woman was stoned and the man got his refund. In those days people were put together and worked it out.
10 Rules for Dating:
1. There must be an attraction.
a) Physical -Is this a person you can kiss? Do you want your child to look like him or her?
b)Spiritually - If you and the person you are from two different denominations it may not work. For
instance if you speak in tongues but the person you date is from a denomination that does not believe in
speaking in tongues there could be some problems.
c)Mentally and Socially - Can you have a conversation with the person?
NeShante Brown - Beware of the decoy. The same list you have the devil has seen it and will send a decoy. Don't let the decoy distract your purpose and destiny.
If he looks good but something just isn't right that is a red flag.
2. Person must prove their love for Christ.
1 Cor 13:4-8
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.
Is the person kind? Is he or she envious of you? (You have your Masters but s/he has only their GED, your parents are still together, etc). Do they boast about themselves all the time? Are they humble or rude?
NeShante Brown - Watch how the other person treats their family members. Also does she cook?
Does he get angry easily. Watch when he or she play board games. If they cheat in scrabble they will probably cheat on you. Do something competitive to see if he or she gets angry. Is your past thrown in your face? If it is thrown in your face now it will be done during the duration of the relationship. Does the person lie or do you always catch them in a lie? Then run! Do you trust the person. Can the person protect your heart?
3. Can the person handle your past?
1 John 1:9
9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
How many people have you been with? Can the other person handle it? Either talk about it or decide now that it doesn't matter. Someone from his or her past may approach you and say that he or she was with your significant other.
NeShante Brown - It's not just the sexual history past to consider but the financial past. Look at their credit score and what's in the bank account. Dating is the interview process.
NeShante Brown was a breath of fresh air to Pastor Brown. She didn't say anything to him. He was interested in her.
NeShante Brown - Knowing when to talk is key. Quietness does not mean you are week. It means you are smart. It's about being selective about what to say.
Stop thinking you want someone in ministry because it is hard. Don't go just after the power.
4. Pace yourself.
Don't be so quick to get married. Listen to your family about the person you are dating. If no one can tell you anything then you are in trouble. Sometimes it is not about someone being jealous. Other people can see things.
5. You have to fast and pray.
Things may be going well but seek God. God needs to show you the person.
John 10:27
27 My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me.
We can be blinded by love.
NeShante Brown - This is very important. Take the time to talk and ask about his or her family like, etc. Choose carefully where you go so you guys can talk.
Ladies be sure you can trust the man around your daughter and men make sure you can trust the woman around your son. Watch how your children are being treated by him or her.
7. CHOOSE NOT TO TOUCH.
Make up in your mind not to do anything sexually. Set up safeguards to keep you out of fornication. There has to be an agreement between the two of you. There does not need to be a test drive.
1 Cor 14:40
40 Let all things be done decently and in order.
NeShante Brown - It's not easy being a virgin. It's a choice. Read Passion and Purity and I've Kissed Dating Goodbye. We have feelings, too. The feelings need to be harnessed. Read the word and books. Mrs. Brown was a virgin when she married Pastor Brown.
8. Meet in a safe setting.
Ladies don't snitch on the guy because you found out that he didn't care. You are not right either. Things were good while you were sleeping with him.
NeShante Brown - The pastor is not excusing dogs.
There are two types of dogs. A mutt goes after everything. A trained dog may like what he sees but he listen to the Master when He says she is off limits. Men: you have the control. Don't come in church sleeping with other people. If you are going to sleep with someone then go elsewhere. Ladies: don't put pressure on the men.
NeShante Brown - We women know what is going to catch the men's attention. Men shouldn't break their necks to look at a woman. Be mindful of the glance. It shouldn't be obvious that you are glancing at another woman. You don't want the the other woman to have the satisfaction that she is being looked at.
9. Counseling
When it's of God it wont' take long for things to heat up. When it was time to get married the pastor didn't wast time. You should date with a purpose. Men: watch the ladies and see how she interacts with other people, how she responds to what the pastor says. Be careful of dating around.
NeShante Brown - She noticed how pastor interacted with his family especially his mom and sister. She noticed how he was in school and had a job, had a vision.
Talk to other couples. Watch the signs. People will be with you when you are connected and it can be seen. Don't check a person in public. Don't ever say anything about a woman's weight.
10. Go to church together.
You don't have to be at the same church. You have to agree on the same beliefs. Bring your date to your pastor for him to check him or her out.
NeShante Brown - Beware if you don't want counseling of your pastor. That's a red flag.
When it comes to dating your mind needs to be renewed.
Romans 12:2
2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
The problem with dating is that it is not in the bible. There were arranged marriages. Courtship was time spent until the marriage/wedding day comes. A woman's virginity was paid for. A white sheet was taken and examined for blood. If no blood the woman was stoned and the man got his refund. In those days people were put together and worked it out.
10 Rules for Dating:
1. There must be an attraction.
a) Physical -Is this a person you can kiss? Do you want your child to look like him or her?
b)Spiritually - If you and the person you are from two different denominations it may not work. For
instance if you speak in tongues but the person you date is from a denomination that does not believe in
speaking in tongues there could be some problems.
c)Mentally and Socially - Can you have a conversation with the person?
NeShante Brown - Beware of the decoy. The same list you have the devil has seen it and will send a decoy. Don't let the decoy distract your purpose and destiny.
If he looks good but something just isn't right that is a red flag.
2. Person must prove their love for Christ.
1 Cor 13:4-8
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.
Is the person kind? Is he or she envious of you? (You have your Masters but s/he has only their GED, your parents are still together, etc). Do they boast about themselves all the time? Are they humble or rude?
NeShante Brown - Watch how the other person treats their family members. Also does she cook?
Does he get angry easily. Watch when he or she play board games. If they cheat in scrabble they will probably cheat on you. Do something competitive to see if he or she gets angry. Is your past thrown in your face? If it is thrown in your face now it will be done during the duration of the relationship. Does the person lie or do you always catch them in a lie? Then run! Do you trust the person. Can the person protect your heart?
3. Can the person handle your past?
1 John 1:9
9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
How many people have you been with? Can the other person handle it? Either talk about it or decide now that it doesn't matter. Someone from his or her past may approach you and say that he or she was with your significant other.
NeShante Brown - It's not just the sexual history past to consider but the financial past. Look at their credit score and what's in the bank account. Dating is the interview process.
NeShante Brown was a breath of fresh air to Pastor Brown. She didn't say anything to him. He was interested in her.
NeShante Brown - Knowing when to talk is key. Quietness does not mean you are week. It means you are smart. It's about being selective about what to say.
Stop thinking you want someone in ministry because it is hard. Don't go just after the power.
4. Pace yourself.
Don't be so quick to get married. Listen to your family about the person you are dating. If no one can tell you anything then you are in trouble. Sometimes it is not about someone being jealous. Other people can see things.
5. You have to fast and pray.
Things may be going well but seek God. God needs to show you the person.
John 10:27
27 My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me.
We can be blinded by love.
NeShante Brown - This is very important. Take the time to talk and ask about his or her family like, etc. Choose carefully where you go so you guys can talk.
Ladies be sure you can trust the man around your daughter and men make sure you can trust the woman around your son. Watch how your children are being treated by him or her.
7. CHOOSE NOT TO TOUCH.
Make up in your mind not to do anything sexually. Set up safeguards to keep you out of fornication. There has to be an agreement between the two of you. There does not need to be a test drive.
1 Cor 14:40
40 Let all things be done decently and in order.
NeShante Brown - It's not easy being a virgin. It's a choice. Read Passion and Purity and I've Kissed Dating Goodbye. We have feelings, too. The feelings need to be harnessed. Read the word and books. Mrs. Brown was a virgin when she married Pastor Brown.
8. Meet in a safe setting.
Ladies don't snitch on the guy because you found out that he didn't care. You are not right either. Things were good while you were sleeping with him.
NeShante Brown - The pastor is not excusing dogs.
There are two types of dogs. A mutt goes after everything. A trained dog may like what he sees but he listen to the Master when He says she is off limits. Men: you have the control. Don't come in church sleeping with other people. If you are going to sleep with someone then go elsewhere. Ladies: don't put pressure on the men.
NeShante Brown - We women know what is going to catch the men's attention. Men shouldn't break their necks to look at a woman. Be mindful of the glance. It shouldn't be obvious that you are glancing at another woman. You don't want the the other woman to have the satisfaction that she is being looked at.
9. Counseling
When it's of God it wont' take long for things to heat up. When it was time to get married the pastor didn't wast time. You should date with a purpose. Men: watch the ladies and see how she interacts with other people, how she responds to what the pastor says. Be careful of dating around.
NeShante Brown - She noticed how pastor interacted with his family especially his mom and sister. She noticed how he was in school and had a job, had a vision.
Talk to other couples. Watch the signs. People will be with you when you are connected and it can be seen. Don't check a person in public. Don't ever say anything about a woman's weight.
10. Go to church together.
You don't have to be at the same church. You have to agree on the same beliefs. Bring your date to your pastor for him to check him or her out.
NeShante Brown - Beware if you don't want counseling of your pastor. That's a red flag.
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
Love or Lust?
Sex is the #1 Google word on the Internet. The two things people want in church is sex and money.
The difference between love and lust:
1. Lust takes and love gives. Lust is selfish, love is selflessness.
2. Lust is hurtful, love is helpful.
3. Lust wants to be satisfied while love wants to satisfy.
Sex is a natural desire from God. You don't have to fast or pray when you get the urge. Sex is ordained from marriage.
Exodus 20:17
17 “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s.”
Love says we are on our way to marriage. Lust says let's just get into bed and have sex.
Matt 5:27
27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’
When you think you repent. You act on it you are going to have serious problems. Killing or thinking of killing are two different things.
Matt 7:21
21 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven.
Lust begins in your heart. Men: It starts with your eyes. Women: It starts with your ears. Your gates are your eyes/ears. You have to guard your gates. Watch your eyes/ears. Single ladies: watch the music you listen to. Listen to Gospel music. Same thing with movies. Be careful of what you watch.
Job 31:1
1 “I have made a covenant with my eyes;
Why then should I look upon a young woman?
You can't think about what you are not looking at.
1 Peter 4:3
3 For we have spent enough of our past lifetime in doing the will of the Gentiles—when we walked in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and abominable idolatries.
If you know you are struggling with lust watch your triggers. 5 things to kill lust:
1. Check your spiritual pulse at all times.
2. Guard your marriage sex life.
3. Watch tempting relationships
4. Rehearse the consequences
5. Guard your eyes
James 1:13-15
13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. 15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.
1 Peter 4:1
1 Therefore, since Christ suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same mind, for he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin,
The difference between love and lust:
1. Lust takes and love gives. Lust is selfish, love is selflessness.
2. Lust is hurtful, love is helpful.
3. Lust wants to be satisfied while love wants to satisfy.
Sex is a natural desire from God. You don't have to fast or pray when you get the urge. Sex is ordained from marriage.
Exodus 20:17
17 “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s.”
Love says we are on our way to marriage. Lust says let's just get into bed and have sex.
Matt 5:27
27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’
When you think you repent. You act on it you are going to have serious problems. Killing or thinking of killing are two different things.
Matt 7:21
21 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven.
Lust begins in your heart. Men: It starts with your eyes. Women: It starts with your ears. Your gates are your eyes/ears. You have to guard your gates. Watch your eyes/ears. Single ladies: watch the music you listen to. Listen to Gospel music. Same thing with movies. Be careful of what you watch.
Job 31:1
1 “I have made a covenant with my eyes;
Why then should I look upon a young woman?
You can't think about what you are not looking at.
1 Peter 4:3
3 For we have spent enough of our past lifetime in doing the will of the Gentiles—when we walked in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and abominable idolatries.
If you know you are struggling with lust watch your triggers. 5 things to kill lust:
1. Check your spiritual pulse at all times.
2. Guard your marriage sex life.
3. Watch tempting relationships
4. Rehearse the consequences
5. Guard your eyes
James 1:13-15
13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. 15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.
1 Peter 4:1
1 Therefore, since Christ suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same mind, for he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin,
Sunday, September 4, 2011
Let's Talk About Sex
Let every husband have his own wife and let every wife have her own husband (1 Cor 7:2).
There are people shacking up and living a homosexual life style. God wants homosexuals to step into L.O.G.I.C and be set free.
We are discussing sex because our leaders are falling due to sex. If you are single getting married won't fix your lust problem. The same devil that has you aroused is the same devil that has married couples dry. He wants the married couples to slip up. Stop blaming the devil today. Ladies, your eyes have to be your covenant. Women may be sleeping around because their father did not tell them they were beautiful or they did not feel loved.
When you do have the urge to have sex there is no need to repent. That is a natural feeling. You are going to need that for when you get married.
1 John 2:15
15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
Stop blaming the devil. To the married ladies: stop being so hard on your husbands. If you see his eyes rolling don't hit him. There's a difference between a dog and a mutt!
1 Cor 6:15-19
15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” 17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?
Let's not lose ourselves this month. We have to save our children/this generation.
There are people shacking up and living a homosexual life style. God wants homosexuals to step into L.O.G.I.C and be set free.
We are discussing sex because our leaders are falling due to sex. If you are single getting married won't fix your lust problem. The same devil that has you aroused is the same devil that has married couples dry. He wants the married couples to slip up. Stop blaming the devil today. Ladies, your eyes have to be your covenant. Women may be sleeping around because their father did not tell them they were beautiful or they did not feel loved.
When you do have the urge to have sex there is no need to repent. That is a natural feeling. You are going to need that for when you get married.
1 John 2:15
15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
Stop blaming the devil. To the married ladies: stop being so hard on your husbands. If you see his eyes rolling don't hit him. There's a difference between a dog and a mutt!
1 Cor 6:15-19
15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” 17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?
Let's not lose ourselves this month. We have to save our children/this generation.
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