Seems Like You Are Ready

2 Cor 6:14-18


¹⁴ Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? ¹⁵ And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? ¹⁶ And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:


      “ I will dwell in them
      And walk among them.
      I will be their God,
      And they shall be My people.”

   
 ¹⁷ Therefore

         “ Come out from among them
      And be separate, says the Lord.
      Do not touch what is unclean,
      And I will receive you.”
       ¹⁸ “ I will be a Father to you,
      And you shall be My sons and daughters,
      Says the LORD Almighty.”

You have to be ready to have sex. No wed no bed!

1. Is the person a Christian/saved?

Why think about having sex(getting married) with an unsaved person? Marrying a believer will avoid a lot of heartache. Before getting to the altar make sure you are equally yoked. This is the 2nd most important decision you will make behind getting saved. Make sure you are equally yoked about money, kids, etc. You may not agree on everything but you have to be of one mind. If you are already married and you are unequally yoked pray that God touches the other person's heart.

2. Are you in love with the person?

Don't just like the person. You need to be head over heels with the person. Love is a choice. Be careful of fatal attraction. You don't have time to play. You have to be so tight nothing can break you guys up. The devil will use church people,  anybody and will try to break you up everyday.

If she is checking your phone does she have a reason to? You can stop doing whatever sin it is. You can live without sex. It is for marriage only.

3. Is your credit and finances in tact?

It cost money to have sex. Men: make sure you have a job, money in the bank. Make sure your credit score is getting better. Is your stuff in order? You should have your HIV/AIDS test, STD test results, and credit score on the 1st date. Marriages are breaking up because of money. You don't have to be rich. What system of exchange are you participating in? System of exchange meaning you offer a service and you get money in exchange.

4. You have to be in agreement.

Amos 3:3


³ Can two walk together, unless they are agreed? 

You want to be in one accord in every area possible. It is recommended that you two attend the same church.

Psalm 133:1-3


¹ Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
         For brethren to dwell together in unity!
        
 ² It is like the precious oil upon the head,
         Running down on the beard,
         The beard of Aaron,
         Running down on the edge of his garments.
 ³ It is like the dew of Hermon,
         Descending upon the mountains of Zion;
         For there the LORD commanded the blessing—
         Life forevermore.

When you are in unity God commands a blessing. Make sure you are one accord in these areas:

Spiritually - You have to be clicking spiritually. The person you are dating may not be on the same level (i.e you speak in tongues) but should be on that path.

Emotionally - Does the person talk you up?

Socially - Can you guys discuss politics, social issues, etc?

Economically - Can you guys discuss money? Is there a plan to increase their finances? Do you have one as well? It wont' work if one person makes $250,000 and  the other person makes $25,000.

Physical - You don't need to do a test drive. If you are clicking in the other areas don't you think God will make sure you are compatible in this area regarding sex? If you wait until your wedding night to have sex that night will be the blessing of your life.

5. Get the counsel of others.

Prov 11:14


¹⁴ Where there is no counsel, the people fall;
      But in the multitude of counselors there is safety.

Every relationship you've had came to an end. What makes you so sure this one won't end? We need to learn to how to grieve. We have the attitude of telling our friend and family to just go out and get another girl/boyfriend. We think we just need to go out and get another girl/boyfriend. How many diseases have you picked up along the way?

What does your family  think? Bring your date to your pastor. What do you have to hide?

6. Be honest about any STDs.

Some states require you to show your STD results before getting married. People don't take the time to cover the necessary basis. Can you deal with the other person's STDs? You are putting the other person's life in danger when you are not honest. There is nothing wrong with having a test. Fast and pray if there are soul ties.


Married people should fast together to rid of soul ties faster. Fasting should also be done if you are dealing with homosexuality.