Don't Just Give It Away

10 Reasons why not to have sex outside if marriage.

1. God says so.

1 Cor 6:18


¹⁸ Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 


God will bless you. The devil knows what you like. He knows how to get in with words. The devil will send him or her your way. It's a set up. What is fornication? Fornication is sexual activity before marriage. Adultery is when two people are having sex but one is married.  Fornication is a blessing blocker. You focus on the other person when you are fornicating.

2. You don't want to mess the blessing of the wedding night. 

A virgin means untouched. you can have a virgin relationship even though you are not a virgin. You don't want to lose that testimony. hen you love someone you want to give it up but you are to wait. The next person you lay down with will be your spouse. When are you going to stop being average? People date and sleep around. Come up above average. Sex is not food and you will not die from not having it.


3. You will be spiritually healthy.

1 Thes 5:19


¹⁹ Do not quench the Spirit.

The reason why your prayers aren't answered is because of fornication. God's not moving. The Holy Spirit shuts down. You lose the ability to hear from God clearly.

4. You will be physically healthy.

You can't get AIDS. Is he or she worth it? you can also get herpes which there is no cure for.

5. You will be emotionally healthy.

You will be pick up the other person's baggage and your emotions will be jacked up.

6. Soul ties

Gen 34:1-8


¹ Now Dinah the daughter of Leah, whom she had borne to Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. ² And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her and lay with her, and violated her. ³ His soul was strongly attracted to Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly to the young woman. ⁴ So Shechem spoke to his father Hamor, saying, “Get me this young woman as a wife.”
⁵ And Jacob heard that he had defiled Dinah his daughter. Now his sons were with his livestock in the field; so Jacob held his peace until they came. ⁶ Then Hamor the father of Shechem went out to Jacob to speak with him. ⁷ And the sons of Jacob came in from the field when they heard it; and the men were grieved and very angry, because he had done a disgraceful thing in Israel by lying with Jacob’s daughter, a thing which ought not to be done. ⁸ But Hamor spoke with them, saying, “The soul of my son Shechem longs for your daughter. Please give her to him as a wife.

When you lay down your soul is tied. In the spirit you become husband and wife. You can't move on because your soul is tied to your ex's. You wonder why you don't have the strength to walk away. You should break soul ties before you date again. Husband/wives if you have forgiven your spouse help him or her to fight that soul tie.

7. You show consideration for your partner's well being.


Phil 2:3


³ Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.

You are respecting them and want the best for them in the kingdom. Date during the daytime. Don't go to late night movies. Take responsibility for yourself and not fornicate. There was a time fathers protected their daughters. men had to go to the father's home to pick up the daughter for a date.

If the other person is selfish it will show up in marriage.

8. Waiting is a test of true love.

Patience will have the perfect work (James 1:4).

1 Cor 13:4


⁴ Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

You love the person so much you don't want to put the person in a situation where there is fornication. When a man finds out you are a virgin men will hurry to marry you. Stop shacking. What are you waiting on? Every time you lay down with someone you push your wedding day back.

2 Cor 10:5


⁵ casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,

Guard yourself. You want the benefits of marriage but you don't want to get married. If you are shacking up people will not want your Jesus.

9. You won't have negative consequences.


Some of the consequences are illegitimate children, diseases, etc. God can heal you of diseases but until then you will have to deal with it.If He doesn't ever heal you will still have to deal with it. You also won't have to deal with shame, tension and animosity.

After you have slept with him or her there is a change. It does something to a man when you tell him no. The more you say no the harder he will try. The 1st thing you should discuss when you go out on a date is that you are waiting until you get married. Also talk about your credit scores, STD tests, etc.

Heb 12:1


¹us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,

Dating the wrong person is not a sin but it can lead to sin if you date him or her long enough. If you see a red flag on the 1st date then break it up. Notice if he clicks on the waitress for example.

10. You keep your Christian testimony in tact.

Matt 5:13


¹³ “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.

You don't want people to look at you and say that they know what you like, that they slept with you. You don't want people to look at you as a Christian that sleeps around. People listen to you when you are not having sex. What you do for God lasts.

Do not enter the bed with out the marriage license.