Your not going to fix your sexual situation by getting married. The devil will always fight you. God made us sexual beings. Stop praying that God will take it away. You need it for when you get married.
Molestation is a very sensitive issue. Some people are promiscuous because she didn't get the attention from her father. Healing can't happen unless you deal with it. We have to go to the Manufacturer to fix and diagnose the problem.
Masturbation is not in the bible. When you can' find it in the bible it falls into the questionable category. Masturbation falls into the category of perversion. There is no proof of harm to the body medically. However it attracts issues to your life that are negative. It ties close to pornography (pornea).
Men are more addicted to pornography then women. 100 Million people were surveyed:
2% watch pornography
3% said it was helpful
86% said it was harmful
87% said it degrades women
89% said it promotes violence.
71% said it degrades sex
75% said it was addictive/addicted to it
82% said it distorts sexuality
71% said it's destructive to life
71% said it was dangerous
Child molesters/rapists 9/10 has dealt with pornography. You have to guard your mind and hearts. Check your house because you don't want to play with pornography.
You may say it's your body, it's safe, no drama, no diseases. It destroys marriages. 3/5 marriages deal with masturbation. It's easy for men to do it when women say no. It causes less attraction. Don't tell your spouse if he is good you will give it to him. He can just do it himself. Emotions aren't attached to sex for men. It's physical for him.
When you masturbate you are saying that you have no self control. Sex was designed for two people, not 1. You are telling God you don't need what He created. Women will say that they don't need a man, and men will say that they don't need women. Women do need the covering of a man. Some women decide to take care of things themselves by using toys.
Everything God made Satan wants to pervert it. It produces a numbness in your spirit and disconnects you from your spouse because you are taking things into your own hands. You get into dangerous mental adultery. Who are you thinking of? Instead of being attracted to your spouse you are drawn to some fantasy world.
Masturbation is dangerous for singles. You get into mental fornication. Who are you thinking about? The bible says that if you even look at a woman you commit adultery. For singles you are committing fornication.
Matt 5:28
28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Three ways to help:
1. Destroy all pornography in your house.
Delete e-mails. It does something to a man when he sees a naked woman.
Get rid of magazines, toys, etc.
1 Cor 5:6
6 Your glorying is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump?
Don't go to the strip clubs.
Ladies: give your husband something to look at. You can get money faster from your husband than a
stripper can.Men: emotionally stimulate her so she won't want to touch herself. Don't just use her for
sex. It's just a duty to her when she's just laying there. Tell her she's pretty.
2. Change your habits.
Avoid all things that cause you to be nasty. Avoid that man or woman that you like receiving compliments
from. Avoid the aisle with those magazines. You know what turns you on. Don't answer the phone, don't
text back. If you want God to mingle in your life live right.
3. Starve your fantasy
Don't play that movie in your mind. When you see your thoughts are going to lead to lust, porn ,etc cast
down those vain imaginations.
2 Cor 10:3-5
3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. 4 For the weapons of
our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting
down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing
every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
Is masturbation a sin?
Gen 38:1-10
1 It came to pass at that time that Judah departed from his brothers, and visited a certain Adullamite whose name was Hirah. 2 And Judah saw there a daughter of a certain Canaanite whose name was Shua, and he married her and went in to her. 3 So she conceived and bore a son, and he called his name Er. 4 She conceived again and bore a son, and she called his name Onan. 5 And she conceived yet again and bore a son, and called his name Shelah. He was at Chezib when she bore him.
6 Then Judah took a wife for Er his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. 7 But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the sight of the LORD, and the LORD killed him. 8 And Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife and marry her, and raise up an heir to your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the heir would not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in to his brother’s wife, that he emitted on the ground, lest he should give an heir to his brother. And the thing which he did displeased the LORD; therefore He killed him also.
He wasted his seed. Most theologians believed he masturbated.
Heb 13:4
4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
The following statement isn't in the bible but Pastor Brown's theological construct:
Is masturbation ever okay? God hates when you bring a 3rd party into the bedroom. There is no wrong sex between married persons. When you masturbate within your marriage for example because your husband is away can lead to mental adultery.
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Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Don't Just Give It Away
10 Reasons why not to have sex outside if marriage.
1. God says so.
1 Cor 6:18
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
God will bless you. The devil knows what you like. He knows how to get in with words. The devil will send him or her your way. It's a set up. What is fornication? Fornication is sexual activity before marriage. Adultery is when two people are having sex but one is married. Fornication is a blessing blocker. You focus on the other person when you are fornicating.
2. You don't want to mess the blessing of the wedding night.
A virgin means untouched. you can have a virgin relationship even though you are not a virgin. You don't want to lose that testimony. hen you love someone you want to give it up but you are to wait. The next person you lay down with will be your spouse. When are you going to stop being average? People date and sleep around. Come up above average. Sex is not food and you will not die from not having it.
3. You will be spiritually healthy.
1 Thes 5:19
19 Do not quench the Spirit.
The reason why your prayers aren't answered is because of fornication. God's not moving. The Holy Spirit shuts down. You lose the ability to hear from God clearly.
4. You will be physically healthy.
You can't get AIDS. Is he or she worth it? you can also get herpes which there is no cure for.
5. You will be emotionally healthy.
You will be pick up the other person's baggage and your emotions will be jacked up.
6. Soul ties
Gen 34:1-8
1 Now Dinah the daughter of Leah, whom she had borne to Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. 2 And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her and lay with her, and violated her. 3 His soul was strongly attracted to Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly to the young woman. 4 So Shechem spoke to his father Hamor, saying, “Get me this young woman as a wife.”
5 And Jacob heard that he had defiled Dinah his daughter. Now his sons were with his livestock in the field; so Jacob held his peace until they came. 6 Then Hamor the father of Shechem went out to Jacob to speak with him. 7 And the sons of Jacob came in from the field when they heard it; and the men were grieved and very angry, because he had done a disgraceful thing in Israel by lying with Jacob’s daughter, a thing which ought not to be done. 8 But Hamor spoke with them, saying, “The soul of my son Shechem longs for your daughter. Please give her to him as a wife.
When you lay down your soul is tied. In the spirit you become husband and wife. You can't move on because your soul is tied to your ex's. You wonder why you don't have the strength to walk away. You should break soul ties before you date again. Husband/wives if you have forgiven your spouse help him or her to fight that soul tie.
7. You show consideration for your partner's well being.
Phil 2:3
3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
You are respecting them and want the best for them in the kingdom. Date during the daytime. Don't go to late night movies. Take responsibility for yourself and not fornicate. There was a time fathers protected their daughters. men had to go to the father's home to pick up the daughter for a date.
If the other person is selfish it will show up in marriage.
8. Waiting is a test of true love.
Patience will have the perfect work (James 1:4).
1 Cor 13:4
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
You love the person so much you don't want to put the person in a situation where there is fornication. When a man finds out you are a virgin men will hurry to marry you. Stop shacking. What are you waiting on? Every time you lay down with someone you push your wedding day back.
2 Cor 10:5
5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
Guard yourself. You want the benefits of marriage but you don't want to get married. If you are shacking up people will not want your Jesus.
9. You won't have negative consequences.
Some of the consequences are illegitimate children, diseases, etc. God can heal you of diseases but until then you will have to deal with it.If He doesn't ever heal you will still have to deal with it. You also won't have to deal with shame, tension and animosity.
After you have slept with him or her there is a change. It does something to a man when you tell him no. The more you say no the harder he will try. The 1st thing you should discuss when you go out on a date is that you are waiting until you get married. Also talk about your credit scores, STD tests, etc.
Heb 12:1
1us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,
Dating the wrong person is not a sin but it can lead to sin if you date him or her long enough. If you see a red flag on the 1st date then break it up. Notice if he clicks on the waitress for example.
10. You keep your Christian testimony in tact.
Matt 5:13
13 “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.
You don't want people to look at you and say that they know what you like, that they slept with you. You don't want people to look at you as a Christian that sleeps around. People listen to you when you are not having sex. What you do for God lasts.
Do not enter the bed with out the marriage license.
1. God says so.
1 Cor 6:18
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
God will bless you. The devil knows what you like. He knows how to get in with words. The devil will send him or her your way. It's a set up. What is fornication? Fornication is sexual activity before marriage. Adultery is when two people are having sex but one is married. Fornication is a blessing blocker. You focus on the other person when you are fornicating.
2. You don't want to mess the blessing of the wedding night.
A virgin means untouched. you can have a virgin relationship even though you are not a virgin. You don't want to lose that testimony. hen you love someone you want to give it up but you are to wait. The next person you lay down with will be your spouse. When are you going to stop being average? People date and sleep around. Come up above average. Sex is not food and you will not die from not having it.
3. You will be spiritually healthy.
1 Thes 5:19
19 Do not quench the Spirit.
The reason why your prayers aren't answered is because of fornication. God's not moving. The Holy Spirit shuts down. You lose the ability to hear from God clearly.
4. You will be physically healthy.
You can't get AIDS. Is he or she worth it? you can also get herpes which there is no cure for.
5. You will be emotionally healthy.
You will be pick up the other person's baggage and your emotions will be jacked up.
6. Soul ties
Gen 34:1-8
1 Now Dinah the daughter of Leah, whom she had borne to Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. 2 And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her and lay with her, and violated her. 3 His soul was strongly attracted to Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly to the young woman. 4 So Shechem spoke to his father Hamor, saying, “Get me this young woman as a wife.”
5 And Jacob heard that he had defiled Dinah his daughter. Now his sons were with his livestock in the field; so Jacob held his peace until they came. 6 Then Hamor the father of Shechem went out to Jacob to speak with him. 7 And the sons of Jacob came in from the field when they heard it; and the men were grieved and very angry, because he had done a disgraceful thing in Israel by lying with Jacob’s daughter, a thing which ought not to be done. 8 But Hamor spoke with them, saying, “The soul of my son Shechem longs for your daughter. Please give her to him as a wife.
When you lay down your soul is tied. In the spirit you become husband and wife. You can't move on because your soul is tied to your ex's. You wonder why you don't have the strength to walk away. You should break soul ties before you date again. Husband/wives if you have forgiven your spouse help him or her to fight that soul tie.
7. You show consideration for your partner's well being.
Phil 2:3
3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
You are respecting them and want the best for them in the kingdom. Date during the daytime. Don't go to late night movies. Take responsibility for yourself and not fornicate. There was a time fathers protected their daughters. men had to go to the father's home to pick up the daughter for a date.
If the other person is selfish it will show up in marriage.
8. Waiting is a test of true love.
Patience will have the perfect work (James 1:4).
1 Cor 13:4
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
You love the person so much you don't want to put the person in a situation where there is fornication. When a man finds out you are a virgin men will hurry to marry you. Stop shacking. What are you waiting on? Every time you lay down with someone you push your wedding day back.
2 Cor 10:5
5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
Guard yourself. You want the benefits of marriage but you don't want to get married. If you are shacking up people will not want your Jesus.
9. You won't have negative consequences.
Some of the consequences are illegitimate children, diseases, etc. God can heal you of diseases but until then you will have to deal with it.If He doesn't ever heal you will still have to deal with it. You also won't have to deal with shame, tension and animosity.
After you have slept with him or her there is a change. It does something to a man when you tell him no. The more you say no the harder he will try. The 1st thing you should discuss when you go out on a date is that you are waiting until you get married. Also talk about your credit scores, STD tests, etc.
Heb 12:1
1us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,
Dating the wrong person is not a sin but it can lead to sin if you date him or her long enough. If you see a red flag on the 1st date then break it up. Notice if he clicks on the waitress for example.
10. You keep your Christian testimony in tact.
Matt 5:13
13 “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.
You don't want people to look at you and say that they know what you like, that they slept with you. You don't want people to look at you as a Christian that sleeps around. People listen to you when you are not having sex. What you do for God lasts.
Do not enter the bed with out the marriage license.
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