Total Recovery

2 Kings 6:4-7

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⁴ So he went with them; and when they came to the Jordan, they cut down trees. ⁵ But as one was felling a beam, the axe head fell into the water; and he cried out and said, “Alas, my master! For it was borrowed.” ⁶ Then the man of God said, “Where did it fall?” And when he showed him the place, he cut off a stick and threw it in there, and made the iron float. ⁷ He said, “Take it up for yourself.” So he put out his hand and took it.

 

You are getting ready to recover all. Everything you lost was set up for your good. There were some things that weren't good for you. Stop crying over relationships. They couldn't handle where you were going. Baggage slows you down.

 

Recovery = The gaining of something you lost or taken away.

 

God has the last word.

 

Isaiah 55:8

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⁸ “For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the LORD.

 

We see several things in 2 Kings:

 

2 Kings 6:4

 

⁴ So he went with them; and when they came to the Jordan, they cut down trees.

 

1. If you don't recover everything admit you lost it. Evaluate your life. You may have lost a weapon. 

    The axehead represents power of the Holy Ghost. You didn't pray, fast, read your Word like you

    said you would. You couldn't find the  strength or hold onto it. What did you lose?

 

Cross references:

1. Isaiah 55:8 : Is 65:2; 66:18
2. Isaiah 55:8 : Is 53:6

2 Kings 6:5

 

 ⁵ But as one was felling a beam, the axe head fell into the water; and he cried out and said, “Alas, my master! For it was borrowed.”

 

2. He admitted that it was borrowed. Your blessings belong to God and not you. We think it is our

    own selves when things go right.

 

2 Kings 6:6

 

⁶ Then the man of God said, “Where did it fall?” And when he showed him the place, he cut off a stick and threw it in there, and made the iron float.

 

3. He went back to the place where he lost it. Where did you lose it? Did you lose it through

    fornication? When you bought the last rap album? When you went to the club? Admit where you

    lost it. Where did your tithe, anointing, prayer life go? You have to analyze your life.

 

4. He also trusted in divine power. What happened to your life you stopped believing in the   

    supernatural? He believed God. You've been taking it out of His hand.

 

1 Peter 5:7

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⁷ casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.

 

Matthew 11:28

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²⁸ “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.

 

Cross references:

1. 1 Peter 5:7 : Ps 55:22; Matt 6:25

Why are you taking it into your hands?

 

5. He hooked up with the man of God. Hook up with someone who has power. Certain blessings

    won't hit your life until you hook up with the man of God. The Children of Israel didn't get their

    blessing until Moses lead them.

 

6.  The axehead did swim. Iron isn't suppose to do that. God will do things in your life that's not

     suppose to happen. You may not know how it will happen but He will blow the mind of your

     enemies.

 

7. 2 Kings 6:7

 

⁷ He said, “Take it up for yourself.” So he put out his hand and took it.

 

 Some of you think total recovery will just come and you don't have to do anything. He put out his hand out and took it. Put out your hand. Your miracle is in the motion. God already released your miracle. You have to put your hand out and let the Holy Ghost pass you by.

It's New To Me

This message was preached by Elder Osiris McClough

Joshua 3:5-8,13-17

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⁵ Then Joshua said to the people, “Consecrate yourselves, for tomorrow the LORD will do wonders among you.” ⁶ And Joshua spoke to the priests, saying, “Take up the ark of the covenant and cross over ahead of the people.” So they took up the ark of the covenant and went ahead of the people.
⁷ Now the LORD said to Joshua, “This day I will begin to exalt you in the sight of all Israel, that they may know that just as I have been with Moses, I will be with you. ⁸ You shall, moreover, command the priests who are carrying the ark of the covenant, saying, ‘When you come to the edge of the waters of the Jordan, you shall stand still in the Jordan.’”

¹³ It shall come about when the soles of the feet of the priests who carry the ark of the LORD, the Lord of all the earth, rest in the waters of the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan will be cut off, and the waters which are flowing down from above will stand in one heap.” ¹⁴ So when the people set out from their tents to cross the Jordan with the priests carrying the ark of the covenant before the people, ¹⁵ and when those who carried the ark came into the Jordan, and the feet of the priests carrying the ark were dipped in the edge of the water (for the Jordan overflows all its banks all the days of harvest), ¹⁶ the waters which were flowing down from above stood and rose up in one heap, a great distance away at Adam, the city that is beside Zarethan; and those which were flowing down toward the sea of the Arabah, the Salt Sea, were completely cut off. So the people crossed opposite Jericho. ¹⁷ And the priests who carried the ark of the covenant of the LORD stood firm on dry ground in the middle of the Jordan while all Israel crossed on dry ground, until all the nation had finished crossing the Jordan.

Joshua was the foot of the river. He was with Moses when the Red Sea was parted. God will do something new to the people but it is not new to Him. This was a brand new group that came to the Jordan. Joshua had already seen God move. He had faith. Sometimes God will do something new for you all over again. Joshua was being pursued. A river represents a situation or a problem that is to block your path to your promise. There are risks in jumping in the water to soon. When we jump head first we drown. We need to prepare and not move too fast. When you rush it doesn’t work out. Here are other situations we can come across:

1.     Cloudy water – It’s hard to see. You can’t see where you are going. We can get caught up and miss what is going on with all that is going on.

2.     Steep Banks – They prevent exits. When you get down too far you can’t get out. We move too fast and we get stuck.

3.     Undercurrent – We can get swept away and possibly dragged under the water. We feel overwhelmed with what’s going on and we became depressed, miserable, have suicidal thoughts.

4.     Strong weeds – Legs can get entangled. People in your life you drag them where you go. They become a burden and you sink. Cut them off.

Let's look at Joshua again:

⁵ Then Joshua said to the people, “Consecrate yourselves, for tomorrow the LORD will do wonders among you.”

 Get yourself together. You can’t take some things into 2012.

⁸ You shall, moreover, command the priests who are carrying the ark of the covenant, saying, ‘When you come to the edge of the waters of the Jordan, you shall stand still in the Jordan.’” 

You have to take God with you wherever you go. We lead too much and don’t want God to lead.

¹³ It shall come about when the soles of the feet of the priests who carry the ark of the LORD, the Lord of all the earth, rest in the waters of the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan will be cut off, and the waters which are^]flowing down from above will stand in one heap.”

God is in the middle of your problem and situation. The waters become still when God moves first and become subject to Him.

¹⁴ So when the people set out from their tents to cross the Jordan with the priests carrying the ark of the covenant before the people,

When it is time to move it’s time to move. You can’t stay stagnant.

¹⁵ and when those who carried the ark came into the Jordan, and the feet of the priests carrying the ark were dipped in the edge of the water (for the Jordan overflows all its banks all the days of harvest), 

After God leads you get yourself right. You let God get into the middle of the thing you get to your harvest.

¹⁶ the waters which were flowing down from above stood and rose up in one heap, a great distance away at Adam, the city that is beside Zarethan; and those which were flowing down toward the sea of the Arabah, the Salt Sea, were completely cut off. So the people crossed opposite Jericho.

When God lifts everything up everything that hinders us will get cut off. God is ready to move for all of us. 

¹⁷ And the priests who carried the ark of the covenant of the LORD stood firm on dry ground in the middle of the Jordan while all Israel crossed on dry ground, until all the nation had finished crossing the Jordan. 

Sweatless victory. He is ready to do anew thing before you.

2 Corinthians 5:7

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⁷ for we walk by faith, not by sight—

Reruns- God will do it all over again. There’s a new season after the rerun. You get double for your trouble. If you can just hold on God is getting ready to do something new.

Psalm 37:25

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²⁵ I have been young and now I am old,
Yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken
Or his descendants begging bread.

You're Too Legit To Quit

2 Corinthians 2:14

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¹⁴ But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumph in Christ, and manifests through us the sweet aroma of the knowledge of Him in every place.  

Psalm 47:1

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¹ O clap your hands, all peoples;
Shout to God with the voice of joy. 

You’ve come too far to quit. You can’t throw in the towel in December. Don’t let the devil play with your mind. This is the last day you pay him any attention. Do not let him drive.

See yourself on the top. He wants you to leave your church, family. Say NO! If you can hold on a little while longer. IF you hold on your family will hold on. IF you throw in the towel the devil has won. If he takes you out he won a whole nation. It’s not about you.

Joshua 24:15

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¹⁵ If it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your fathers served which were beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”

Cross references:

1. Joshua 24:15 : Judg 6:10

We will not have a pity party. You’ve come too far to look back. Don’t lose your testimony this time of the year. It will cost you too much.

Proverbs 24:6

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⁶ For by wise guidance you will wage war,
And in abundance of counselors there is victory.

You have to have the voice of triumph. There’s your victory. You may be broke on the outside but you’ve been speaking prosperity. Learn how to speak like a millionaire. Speak life.

Proverbs 18:21

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²¹ Death and life are in the ^]power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.  

Use your tongue to speak life. Stop cursing people and cussing people out. Is your vocabulary lining up with your situation or what’s on the way? You can’t live in the right now. You’ll go to the grave early. Believe in yourself. Have faith for yourself. Learn how to speak the language.

Let your next relationship be the last one because soul ties are something serious. You are still trying to deal with stuff from years ago while trying to deal with this one. If it doesn’t have potential to get to the altar break it off.

Triumphant is the act of be triumph, significant success, going through obstacle course. The devil will play a movie to get you off course when you see it speak triumphantly.

Galatians 6:9

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⁹ Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.

 

Psalm 71:16

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¹⁶ I will come with the mighty deeds of the Lord GOD;
I will make mention of Your righteousness, Yours alone.

 

2 Chronicles 20:15

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¹⁵ and he said, “Listen, all Judah and the inhabitants of Jerusalem and King Jehoshaphat: thus says the LORD to you, ‘Do not fear or be dismayed because of this great multitude, for the battle is not yours but God’s.

Cross references:

1. 2 Chronicles 20:15 : Ex 14:13; Deut 20:1-4; 2 Chr 32:7, 8
2. 2 Chronicles 20:15 : 1 Sam 17:47

You are weary because you are fighting in your strength. The children of Israel felt like grasshoppers when they went to spy out the land (Numbers 13:33). Joshua went in the strength of the Lord (Joshua 1). No matter how big the situation is you have to believe God and live by faith. Are you the type of Christian that praise God because He did it or because you don’t know when He is going to do it but you will praise Him anyhow? To faint is to fall out. Some of you are there spiritually. You are too close to the house. GO to the enemy’s camp and take it back.

Matthew 11:12

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¹² From the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffers violence, and violent men ^[take it by force.

We have to be aggressive and not take everything.  The devil knows where to throw the dart, what button to push. Life is like a 100m dash with hurdles. Some of you are about to walk into the greatest blessing. Don’t kick people out of your life. They are being used by the devil. Just love on them. You will be victorious whether the devil likes it or not. Walk around and declare that the bills will be paid. Stay away from the dram killers. They can be anywhere. Don’t walk another day without the authority of Jesus.

Exodus 12:7,22-23

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⁷ Moreover, they shall take some of the blood and put it on the two doorposts and on the lintel of the houses in which they eat it.  

²² You shall take a bunch of hyssop and dip it in the blood which is in the basin, and apply some of the blood that is in the basin to the lintel and the two doorposts; and none of you shall go outside the door of his house until morning.  ²³ For the LORD will pass through to smite the Egyptians; and when He sees the blood on the lintel and on the two doorposts, the LORD will pass over the door and will not allow the destroyer to come in to your houses to smite you.

Acts 7:48

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⁴⁸ However, the Most High does not dwell in houses made by human hands; as the prophet says:

Cross references:

1. Acts 7:48 : Luke 1:32

When the blood is on your life the devil will come but he has to walk on by. Don’t let the devil rest on you, lay a nest and hatch eggs. In your prayer time Satan will make you feel like your prayers are bouncing off the wall. He’s a liar. Your prayers are shaking heaven. Faith it until you make it no. Not fake it.

Hebrews 11:1

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¹ Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.

It’s in you and you have to believe it until it manifests. Don’t let the devil have what is not his: joy, happiness, peace, mind, anointing, ministry, body. If God is in it the devil can’t destroy it. If it is not of God it will crumble. 

Exodus 14:13

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¹³ But Moses said to the people, “Do not fear! Stand by and see the salvation of the LORD which He will accomplish for you today; for the Egyptians whom you have seen today, you will never see them again forever.

What is God given, flesh given, or devil given? God throws you in the court of life for you to score in the scheme of the play. Just don’t step out of bounds. As long as you are not bringing shame do what you know to do. Don’t let your current circumstance rob you of seeing the bigger picture. Start putting the pieces together. Don’t pick up another wrong piece. You can’t afford to date the wrong person, work at the wrong place, go to the wrong church. If you make the wrong decision you will disqualify yourself.  There will be a corporate blessing over L.O.G.I.C. 

Get the right people around you and get rid of the wrong people. You can’t carry dead weight this season. You may think it is too late. It is never too late. You still have time to start fresh.

Preperation H

2 Corinthians 10:3-6

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³ For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, ⁴ for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. ⁵ We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, ⁶ and we are ready to punish all disobedience, whenever your obedience is complete.

All around the world the holidays is the most depressing season of some people's lives. They reflect on family relationships. Most suicides happen during this time. The devil wants to weigh you down. David said that he was glad when he was told to go to the house of the Lord (Psalm 122:1). The devil will do whatever he can to make you lose focus on God.

2 Corinthians 10:4

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⁴ for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses.

2 Corinthians 10:4

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⁴ For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds,

What is warfare? It is a military operation.

John 10:10

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¹⁰ The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.

The devil will have you to think what is wrong.

Here are four points to look at:

1. Our weapons are not carnal. We can't fight this in the natural. Get on your knees and access the power of God. Death and life are in the power of the tongue (Prov 18:21).The devil will use anyone to get to you. You have to have a discerning spirit and know who you are fighting against. Learn how to fight in the spirit otherwise you will fight in the flesh and you will get tired.

2. Learn how to pull down strongholds. Strongholds are demonic atmospheres around you. The more you are anointed the more devils you have to fight. You have more power than the devil. God will let you discern when the devil is plotting against you. He wants you to feel that no one loves you. Learn to take a licking and keep on ticking. When you deal with the atmosphere that means you are growing. When you deal with a stronghold angelic activity increases in your life. The devil can't touch your life. He wants to. What the devil shows you is an illusion. The movie you star in doesn't have his ending.  There's a happy ending.

3. Cast down imaginations (2 Cor 10:5). When you do it is all in the mind. Philosophical strongholds that go against what you believe tell you that it doesn't take all that praying, reading the Word, etc. You have to know that you know that what you believe is real. Don't give the devil credit. Santa is not real and neither is the Easter bunny. Jesus is the real reason for the season. Philosophical strongholds come against your faith. When your vision comes before sometimes the thought that it is not God or it can't be done because it's too big or where are you going to get the money from may come.The devil will show you the worst. When He does cast it down. When you speak the word and get God's picture the devil's image can't bother you.

Isaiah 54:17

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¹⁷ “No weapon that is formed against you will prosper;
And every tongue that accuses you in judgment you will condemn.
This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD,
And their vindication is from Me,” declares the LORD.

Proverbs 24:16

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¹⁶ For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again,
But the wicked stumble in time of calamity.

Stop thinking because you messed up God is not going to bless you.

4. Understand the Word of God.

Hosea 4:6

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⁶ My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.
Because you have rejected knowledge,
I also will reject you from being My priest.
Since you have forgotten the law of your God,
I also will forget your children.

Let this be the season you are full of the Word.

Proverbs 4:7

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⁷ “The beginning of wisdom is: Acquire wisdom;
And with all your acquiring, get understanding.

Hebrews 4:12

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¹² For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.

Learn when, where and how to apply the Word of God.

1 Timothy 1:18

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¹⁸ This command I entrust to you, Timothy, my son, in accordance with the prophecies previously made concerning you, that by them you fight the good fight,

What has been spoken over you? You know it is God because you have heard the same thing from several people over several years.

Jesus is your joy. Remember that joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5)

Afflictions

This message was preached by Stephen Brown at Sunday Night At the Light

Psalm 34:18-19

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¹⁸ The LORD is near to the brokenhearted
And saves those who are crushed in spirit.
¹⁹ Many are the afflictions of the righteous,
But the LORD delivers him out of them all.

2011 has been a difficult year for some of us. 2012 is the year of total recovery. He will give it to you triple. You are not cursed. It is the will of God. He is not after you. It is His will that He take through transition. He strips you before He blesses you.


1 Kings 17:3-5

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³ “Go away from here and turn eastward, and hide yourself by the brook Cherith, which is east of the Jordan. ⁴ It shall be that you will drink of the brook, and I have commanded the ravens to provide for you there.” ⁵ So he went and did according to the word of the LORD, for he went and lived by the brook Cherith, which is east of the Jordan.

Cherith means separation. Look at separation has a blessing. When He strips He prepares you for the greater. Look at it as gain. When you lose. He has to subtract before He ads. Pay attention to relationships in your life. Some relationships are seasonal. Some are in your life so they can see the power of God in your life.

Jesus said that you will go through persecution. God is not a genie in a bottle. When He doesn't move when you want Him to it doesn't mean He is against you. God i molding you and preparing you. He is still working on you. You are anointed but you still have to go through afflictions. Afflictions are injuries in the spirit. If you want the blessings you have to go through the testing. We live to overcome every affliction. You can't quit and give up on God. When you get mad at your job you don't quit. Don't run from Him.

Matthew 5:11

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¹¹ “Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me.

IF JEsus and His disciples went through what makes you think you are any different?

Romans 12:14

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¹⁴ Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.

Psalm 119:71

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⁷¹ It is good for me that I was afflicted,
That I may learn Your statutes.

Certain things afflict us that nothing else can. Everything you go through negative isn't of the devil. That jam you are in God put you there. Jesus was lead to the wilderness (Matt 4:1) He was tempted by the devil. Don't be surprise when you have the time of your life the devil comes. No one can set you up like God.

Olives through a process when trying to get the oil out. First it is shaken and the olives hit the ground. Then the olives are pressed and crushed. Lastly the olives are beat to get more oil. You think you are ready but God is still beating you.

1 Peter 4:12

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¹² Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you

This isn't new. If God put you in it He will bring you through. The tea doesn't come until it hits boiled water. He is conditioning you to a new position. Where there is a test there is testimony. Where there is misery there is a miracle.

If you don't go through God won't deal with you. IF you want to be used you have to go through the fire.

Exodus 1:12

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¹² But the more they afflicted them, the more they multiplied and the more they ^]spread out, so that they were in dread of the sons of Israel.

Whatever God wants you to do accept it. 2011 is the year of persecution and affliction.

Single, Saved, & Satisfied

If you are single don't think you are worthless. You don't need someone to make you while. You are bad by yourself. If you are looking for someone to make you whole you will never be fulfilled. Don't get into "that's your spouse" prophesy. If you are married what you did to get your spouse you must keep on doing that to keep your spouse.

Adam was complete before Eve. He was lonely and needed a companion to compliment him. Again you have to be complete in God.

Genesis 2:24

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 ²⁴ For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

God takes your completeness and adds companionship to it. The fire gets hot around the holidays. Don't let fornication rule you. You have to keep your body under subjection. That may be your struggle but before you didn't care.

You can be single, saved and satisfied. God won't add a spouse until you are single, saved and satisfied. There's nothing like a complete person. Until then get yourself together. Remove baggage. Stop jumping from relationship to relationship. Give yourself time to recuperate. Break the soul tie before you think about bringing another person into your life.There's something about a sanctified woman. As a man you don't want a woman who goes to the club but can pray. You need a woman who can touch God. You are unstable going from relationship to relationship. You'll compare the next person to the last which is unfair. Get healed!

There are billions of people in this world. You have to choose the right one. You thought the other people you dated were the one. Women aren't supposed to look for a man. Let a man find you and stop being thirsty.

Proverbs 18:22

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²² He who finds a wife finds a good thing
And obtains favor from the LORD.

Some people don't desire to be married. They are called Eunuchs. Some were born that way. There is nothing wrong with desiring to not be married. 

Here is what to look for when dating:

1. Make sure the person you are dating is someone you love giving your time, money, etc to. Can you imagine waking up to the person for the rest of your life? Marriage takes work. If you don't want to give anything that person is not the person for you. God gave Jesus to us:

John 3:16

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   ¹⁶ “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.

Is this the person you want to give your body to in marriage? Adam had one rib.

2. Is the person you are dating excited for you? Are you for them? When he or she achieves personal things are you excited or you don't care. Learn how to celebrate others.

Philippians 2:3

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³ Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;

Is he or she the 1st person you call when something exciting happens? Or do you avoid calling the person because you know the reaction will not be good. Life is about accomplishing things. Men need affirmation. Men - learn how to say something sweet to her all the time.

3. Do you want to impress him or her? After time goes on does it wear off? Men's eyes will roam when women don't keep themselves up.  Don't come to the door with rollers in your hair. Men, please pull up your pants. Don't wast other people's time.

4. Does the person ignore sound counsel/mentors? Who impresses them? If no one can talk to him or her you are in trouble. Watch the lady who talks to her mother crazy. She will talk to you the same way Does he go off on his mom? Does he speak in a respectful way? If he talks to her that way he will talk to you that way. Does he like to read. Does he have a job? It's different if he is in between jobs. Does he have goals, aspirations? What's coming out of his or her mouth?

5. If he or she flirtatious? Some people are just outgoing. If you can't handle that you need to rethink the relationship. Can you handle it if the other person is are always checking out your significant other? If they are trying to attraction attention and don't care about you that is a red flag. If you are over protective that can be a problem. If he always thinks he looks better than you beware. If he is thirsty for compliments that is also a red flag.

6. Is he or she 100% single? Are they in between women? Are there multiple women? They don't deserve your attention if he or she is not 100% single. There are no platonic friends. Something will happen eventually. Married people shouldn't have friends of the opposite sex. Learn to set boundaries.Who is she texting? Who is he texting? What is he or she tweeting about? If you can't check his or her phone you are in trouble. You have to tell others you are married and they can't call or text anymore.

You can't be envious of Godly relationships, prosperous relationships if you are not willing to do what it takes to have that. Be careful if a man always shuts you down and vice versa. When you have a dream the person has to dream along with you. Do they let you dream.

7. Do you bring him or her to your family? If you are not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas you are not the one. If you have been dating for 5 years that is a red flag. If you are shaking up you need to kick him or her out of your house. No one is buying the cow when they can get the milk for free. Men will milk the cow until a prettier cow comes along.

8. Are you included in decisions? If they don't want to talk to you then you are not the one.

Why are the bank accounts separated? Everything is one. Stop talking about your pastor. Your husband is your covering. You have to get permission before you fast. If works both ways.

1 Corinthians 7:5

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⁵ Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

You can't be blessed when blinded by sin and the gods of this world.

It needs to be you and God 1st. You can live with out sex. It is not food.