Adam was complete before Eve. He was lonely and needed a companion to compliment him. Again you have to be complete in God.
Genesis 2:24
New American Standard Bible (NASB)
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.
God takes your completeness and adds companionship to it. The fire gets hot around the holidays. Don't let fornication rule you. You have to keep your body under subjection. That may be your struggle but before you didn't care.
You can be single, saved and satisfied. God won't add a spouse until you are single, saved and satisfied. There's nothing like a complete person. Until then get yourself together. Remove baggage. Stop jumping from relationship to relationship. Give yourself time to recuperate. Break the soul tie before you think about bringing another person into your life.There's something about a sanctified woman. As a man you don't want a woman who goes to the club but can pray. You need a woman who can touch God. You are unstable going from relationship to relationship. You'll compare the next person to the last which is unfair. Get healed!
There are billions of people in this world. You have to choose the right one. You thought the other people you dated were the one. Women aren't supposed to look for a man. Let a man find you and stop being thirsty.
Proverbs 18:22
New American Standard Bible (NASB)
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing
And obtains favor from the LORD.
Some people don't desire to be married. They are called Eunuchs. Some were born that way. There is nothing wrong with desiring to not be married.
Here is what to look for when dating:
1. Make sure the person you are dating is someone you love giving your time, money, etc to. Can you imagine waking up to the person for the rest of your life? Marriage takes work. If you don't want to give anything that person is not the person for you. God gave Jesus to us:
John 3:16
New American Standard Bible (NASB)
16 “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.
Is this the person you want to give your body to in marriage? Adam had one rib.
2. Is the person you are dating excited for you? Are you for them? When he or she achieves personal things are you excited or you don't care. Learn how to celebrate others.
Philippians 2:3
New American Standard Bible (NASB)
3 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;
Is he or she the 1st person you call when something exciting happens? Or do you avoid calling the person because you know the reaction will not be good. Life is about accomplishing things. Men need affirmation. Men - learn how to say something sweet to her all the time.
3. Do you want to impress him or her? After time goes on does it wear off? Men's eyes will roam when women don't keep themselves up. Don't come to the door with rollers in your hair. Men, please pull up your pants. Don't wast other people's time.
4. Does the person ignore sound counsel/mentors? Who impresses them? If no one can talk to him or her you are in trouble. Watch the lady who talks to her mother crazy. She will talk to you the same way Does he go off on his mom? Does he speak in a respectful way? If he talks to her that way he will talk to you that way. Does he like to read. Does he have a job? It's different if he is in between jobs. Does he have goals, aspirations? What's coming out of his or her mouth?
5. If he or she flirtatious? Some people are just outgoing. If you can't handle that you need to rethink the relationship. Can you handle it if the other person is are always checking out your significant other? If they are trying to attraction attention and don't care about you that is a red flag. If you are over protective that can be a problem. If he always thinks he looks better than you beware. If he is thirsty for compliments that is also a red flag.
6. Is he or she 100% single? Are they in between women? Are there multiple women? They don't deserve your attention if he or she is not 100% single. There are no platonic friends. Something will happen eventually. Married people shouldn't have friends of the opposite sex. Learn to set boundaries.Who is she texting? Who is he texting? What is he or she tweeting about? If you can't check his or her phone you are in trouble. You have to tell others you are married and they can't call or text anymore.
You can't be envious of Godly relationships, prosperous relationships if you are not willing to do what it takes to have that. Be careful if a man always shuts you down and vice versa. When you have a dream the person has to dream along with you. Do they let you dream.
7. Do you bring him or her to your family? If you are not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas you are not the one. If you have been dating for 5 years that is a red flag. If you are shaking up you need to kick him or her out of your house. No one is buying the cow when they can get the milk for free. Men will milk the cow until a prettier cow comes along.
8. Are you included in decisions? If they don't want to talk to you then you are not the one.
Why are the bank accounts separated? Everything is one. Stop talking about your pastor. Your husband is your covering. You have to get permission before you fast. If works both ways.
Is he or she the 1st person you call when something exciting happens? Or do you avoid calling the person because you know the reaction will not be good. Life is about accomplishing things. Men need affirmation. Men - learn how to say something sweet to her all the time.
3. Do you want to impress him or her? After time goes on does it wear off? Men's eyes will roam when women don't keep themselves up. Don't come to the door with rollers in your hair. Men, please pull up your pants. Don't wast other people's time.
4. Does the person ignore sound counsel/mentors? Who impresses them? If no one can talk to him or her you are in trouble. Watch the lady who talks to her mother crazy. She will talk to you the same way Does he go off on his mom? Does he speak in a respectful way? If he talks to her that way he will talk to you that way. Does he like to read. Does he have a job? It's different if he is in between jobs. Does he have goals, aspirations? What's coming out of his or her mouth?
5. If he or she flirtatious? Some people are just outgoing. If you can't handle that you need to rethink the relationship. Can you handle it if the other person is are always checking out your significant other? If they are trying to attraction attention and don't care about you that is a red flag. If you are over protective that can be a problem. If he always thinks he looks better than you beware. If he is thirsty for compliments that is also a red flag.
6. Is he or she 100% single? Are they in between women? Are there multiple women? They don't deserve your attention if he or she is not 100% single. There are no platonic friends. Something will happen eventually. Married people shouldn't have friends of the opposite sex. Learn to set boundaries.Who is she texting? Who is he texting? What is he or she tweeting about? If you can't check his or her phone you are in trouble. You have to tell others you are married and they can't call or text anymore.
You can't be envious of Godly relationships, prosperous relationships if you are not willing to do what it takes to have that. Be careful if a man always shuts you down and vice versa. When you have a dream the person has to dream along with you. Do they let you dream.
7. Do you bring him or her to your family? If you are not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas you are not the one. If you have been dating for 5 years that is a red flag. If you are shaking up you need to kick him or her out of your house. No one is buying the cow when they can get the milk for free. Men will milk the cow until a prettier cow comes along.
8. Are you included in decisions? If they don't want to talk to you then you are not the one.
Why are the bank accounts separated? Everything is one. Stop talking about your pastor. Your husband is your covering. You have to get permission before you fast. If works both ways.
1 Corinthians 7:5
New American Standard Bible (NASB)
5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
You can't be blessed when blinded by sin and the gods of this world.
It needs to be you and God 1st. You can live with out sex. It is not food.
You can't be blessed when blinded by sin and the gods of this world.
It needs to be you and God 1st. You can live with out sex. It is not food.
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