I'll Just Do It Myself

Your not going to fix your sexual situation by getting married. The devil will always fight you. God made us sexual beings. Stop praying that God will take it away. You need it for when you get married.


Molestation is a very sensitive issue. Some people are promiscuous because she didn't get the attention from her father. Healing can't happen unless you deal with it. We have to go to the Manufacturer to fix and diagnose the problem.

Masturbation is not in the bible. When you can' find it in the bible it falls into the questionable category. Masturbation falls into the category of perversion. There is no proof of harm to the body medically. However it attracts issues to your life that are negative. It ties close to pornography (pornea).

Men are more addicted to pornography then women. 100 Million people were surveyed:

2% watch pornography

3% said it was helpful

86% said it was harmful

87% said it degrades women

89% said it promotes violence.

71% said it degrades sex

75% said it was addictive/addicted to it

82% said it distorts sexuality

71% said it's destructive to life

71% said it was dangerous

Child molesters/rapists 9/10 has dealt with pornography. You have to guard your mind and hearts. Check your house because you don't want to play with pornography.

You may say it's your body, it's safe, no drama, no diseases. It destroys marriages. 3/5 marriages deal with masturbation. It's easy for men to do it when women say no. It causes less attraction. Don't tell your spouse if he is good you will give it to him. He can just do it himself. Emotions aren't attached to sex for men. It's physical for him.

When you masturbate you are saying that you have no self control. Sex was designed for two people, not 1. You are telling God you don't need what He created. Women will say that they don't need a man, and men will say that they don't need women. Women do need the covering of a man. Some women decide to take care of things themselves by using toys.

Everything God made Satan wants to pervert it. It produces a numbness in your spirit and disconnects you from your spouse because you are taking things into your own hands. You get into dangerous mental adultery. Who are you thinking of? Instead of being attracted to your spouse you are drawn to some fantasy world.

Masturbation is dangerous for singles. You get into mental fornication. Who are you thinking about? The bible says that if you even look at a woman you commit adultery. For singles you are committing fornication.

Matt 5:28


²⁸ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Three ways to help:


1. Destroy all pornography in your house.

    Delete e-mails. It does something to a man when he sees a naked woman.
    Get rid of magazines, toys, etc.

   1 Cor 5:6   

    ⁶ Your glorying is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump?

   Don't go to the strip clubs.
  
   Ladies: give your husband something to look at. You can get money faster from your husband than a
   stripper can.Men: emotionally stimulate her so she won't want to touch herself. Don't just use her for
   sex.  It's just a duty to her when she's just laying there. Tell her she's pretty.

2. Change your habits.

     Avoid all things that cause you to be nasty. Avoid that man or woman that you like receiving compliments
     from. Avoid the aisle with those magazines. You know what turns you on. Don't answer the phone, don't
     text back. If you want God to mingle in your life live right.

3. Starve your fantasy

    Don't play that movie in your mind. When you see your thoughts are going to lead to lust, porn ,etc cast
   down those vain imaginations.

   2 Cor 10:3-5


   ³ For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. ⁴ For the weapons of 
      our  warfare  are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, ⁵ casting    
      down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing 
      every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,


Is masturbation a sin?

Gen 38:1-10


¹ It came to pass at that time that Judah departed from his brothers, and visited a certain Adullamite whose name was Hirah. ² And Judah saw there a daughter of a certain Canaanite whose name was Shua, and he married her and went in to her. ³ So she conceived and bore a son, and he called his name Er. ⁴ She conceived again and bore a son, and she called his name Onan. ⁵ And she conceived yet again and bore a son, and called his name Shelah. He was at Chezib when she bore him.
⁶ Then Judah took a wife for Er his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. ⁷ But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the sight of the LORD, and the LORD killed him. ⁸ And Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife and marry her, and raise up an heir to your brother.” ⁹ But Onan knew that the heir would not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in to his brother’s wife, that he emitted on the ground, lest he should give an heir to his brother. And the thing which he did displeased the LORD; therefore He killed him also. 


He wasted his seed. Most theologians believed he masturbated.

Heb 13:4

⁴ Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. 


The following statement isn't in the bible but Pastor Brown's theological construct:

Is masturbation ever okay? God hates when you bring a 3rd party into the bedroom. There is no wrong sex between married persons. When you masturbate within your marriage for example because your husband is away can lead to mental adultery.

Do You Want It?

This was preached by Pastor Stephen Brown during our monthly Sunday Night at the Light service.

John 5: 1 -9

 ¹After this there was a feast of the Jews; and Jesus went up to Jerusalem.
 ²Now there is at Jerusalem by the sheep market a pool, which is called in the Hebrew tongue Bethesda, having five porches.
 ³In these lay a great multitude of impotent folk, of blind, halt, withered, waiting for the moving of the water.
 ⁴For an angel went down at a certain season into the pool, and troubled the water: whosoever then first after the troubling of the water stepped in was made whole of whatsoever disease he had.
 ⁵And a certain man was there, which had an infirmity thirty and eight years.
 ⁶When Jesus saw him lie, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, he saith unto him, Wilt thou be made whole?
 ⁷The impotent man answered him, Sir, I have no man, when the water is troubled, to put me into the pool: but while I am coming, another steppeth down before me.
 ⁸Jesus saith unto him, Rise, take up thy bed, and walk.
 ⁹And immediately the man was made whole, and took up his bed, and walked: and on the same day was the sabbath.

The man had a dilemma, desperation, and deliverance. A lot of us have a dilemma and we need a miracle to hit our lives.

³In these lay a great multitude of impotent folk, of blind, halt, withered, waiting for the moving of the water. 

You can't hang around people who are worse off than you. If people are always speaking negativity then you need to change your circle.


 ⁶When Jesus saw him lie, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, he saith unto him, Wilt thou be made whole?
 ⁷The impotent man answered him, Sir, I have no man, when the water is troubled, to put me into the pool: but while I am coming, another steppeth down before me.

Jesus asked only one question but the man gave a response that did not have to do with his question. You can come out of your mess if you want to. The man made excuses. He was crippled in his mind.  Some of us are crippled in our mind, faith, and spirit. Whatever is in you will come out (Prov 4:23). Greater is He that is in you that is in the world (1 John 4:4). If you believe that God is greater than your problems you would praise Him when trouble comes. Don't let people talk you out of your miracle. Stop looking for your miracle to happen the same way it has happened for someone else. God has a new and better way for you.

⁸Jesus saith unto him, Rise, take up thy bed, and walk.

When Jesus speaks just get up. All you need is a Word and once you step out on the Word keep your eyes on the Word. Peter sank when he took his eyes off of Jesus (Matt 14:22 -31). Whoever calls on Jesus shall be delivered (Romans 10:13).